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My boyfriend wants to me and my cat to move to another state with him.. any advice?

2020.09.29 05:42 poopyunicorn_ My boyfriend wants to me and my cat to move to another state with him.. any advice?

So my S.O(M23) and I(F22) have been dating now for 4 months, I live with my strict hispanic mother and dad. He has been independent and living alone since he was 18. I love him a lot and he loves me too, and I've never felt how I feel with him ever and I believe we have something really special. I'm starting an IT certification program at this university next month, something I've been looking forward too; I decided to take classes in campus instead of online because I have always wanted to feel what it feels to go to university even though I have completed an AA at my local college- I want to meet people and make friends in campus. We have never talked about moving in together, but today he asked me if I would be willing to move to Boston with him for a couple of months and then come back.. fyi we live in Florida. A side note, when we first met, he was going to move back to another city because he realized that were we live right now doesn't have as much of a good economy as that other city, so he decided to take a leap of faith and stay here with me (I wasn't aware of this until 3 months into the relationship when he told me). Today when he asked me to move to Boston with him, he asked me if I could take classes online as that's important to me, and I told him I could. But to be honest that is not what I want. Plus there's something in my head that makes me wonder if this relationship is worth fighting for because just a 2 nights ago, he told me that he doesn't want to spend time with my family anymore because he believes my mom is dumb and ignorant and so many other bad things and he doesn't like her as a person. I agree with him in a lot of those things, but she is my mom and I have learned to accept her for who she is and If he wants anything to do with me, he is going to have to learn to get along with my family (btw my family likes him specially my mom, how ironic. On the other hand I think my brother and his wife think he's a bit too jealous and has a bad character at times because they have seen how he reacts out of jealousy and my brother doesn't think it's right). He has told me how his parents (that live in another country) had him when they were really young and that they couldn't raise him so he spent most of his life with his grandpa, who has passed away, and that he doesn't care much for them. He respects them, if they need money or his help, he is always there to help them, and they have gave him life so he tolerates them, but he doesn't think he should tolerate someone like my mother if he can barely tolerate his and he only does so because she birthed him. My mother loves bringing the family together for all the festivities, she loves cooking for people, she loves nurturing her family as best as she can. And i believe if there's any future with us, he's going to have to learn to get along with my family. I know he doesn't know what it is to have a mother that cares for you, he's not a family oriented person because he wasn't raised like that. I know it may take some time for him to get used to this kind of love, but I am afraid he is too stubborn to want to get along with them even if that's what makes me happy. I'm afraid that me telling him "no" to Boston will result in the relationship failing. I have yet to have this conversation in depth with him.. I need advice
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2020.09.29 00:26 dolche5150 Is it right for me [24F] to cut off friend [24F] of 7 years?

To start this off, I've known of her since freshmen year of high school as she was known to be one of the well-liked people in school. We didn't become friends until Junior year of high school. We were 16. We only became friends because of her boyfriend.
Also, I feel the need to put the ethnicities just to see a pattern.
I'm just going to list the stuff she's said/done to me over the years, or else this will be longer than it already is:
When coronavirus started, Asians were getting discriminated. She posted this:
Right now, she's deep in BLM posts on a daily and I call fake. I think she's just riding the bandwagon. With the comments she's made about me, I have a hard time believing that this person grew. I decided to just unfollow and unfriend her everywhere. My current boyfriend and her boyfriend (both Hispanic) are cousins and my bf supports me. I have my reasons to let go, but why do I feel so bad?
TL;DR: I'm cutting off my friend of 7 years for saying I'm going to have dark and ugly babies, but she's a BLM advocate and I don't believe it. Said friend does not value my beliefs, does not respect me, and does everything for clout. She also got mad at me for paying for her food.
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2020.09.28 18:38 bassingpreeze17 29 [M4F] CA/Los Angeles - COVID Free and College Educated for Cougars and other Curvy Company

Greetings all, I hope my goofy alliteration was enough to catch your attention
I'm Joseph, it's a pleasure.
If you're stopping by this post it's mostly likely because you may be like me. Doing your best to follow the rules during the pandemic, holding on but still feeling like you miss good human connection and maybe want something just a little more than the average hook up and run fair that most are looking for here. (Trust me I feel the heat after being locked in for so long and I'm ready to go to town but I like to make sure we connect a bit first). I've poked my head into other spaces but dating apps feel a bit less personal than a long winded essay about me so here I am
Anyways, hopefully my blurbs and willingness to talk will attract you and keep wanting to chat more and get into it before you get into my pants. If you're looking for something that's a little more than just a hook up, look no further because this one has details that won't completely disappoint. So lets get to it:
Stats (so you can size me up): I'm 29 years old, 6'0 tall, brown hair and eyes, white/hispanic mixed, in decent shape, 170lbs, 7 inches and thick, college educated (BA in Communications, and applying to Grad School), can travel/drive, don't mind some weekend drinking but I watch myself and while enjoy an edible sparingly here and there, I'm drug free otherwise and polite and laid back.
Career and Hobbies:Work wise I work for small businesses as a project and digital media manager, usually helping them grow. Currently I'm with an electrical contractor and I help them manage projects and their digital output (mostly advertising but how they do it online) and I also do a bit of teaching on the side to kids in music programs but that's obvs on hold right now with how the world is turning. And as far as hobbies I'm big into video games, I like to collect and learn about old and new projects and try out new games as much as I can. I also like following movies and shows. I'm a big fan of new cooking recipes and when quarantine isn't happening I do like traveling
My status: I'm single. My last relationship ended months ago and it wasnt a long one, COVID just ensured it wouldn't last. It sucks but we mutually made the best call and we are still friends now. With that, I've taken some time to myself and I'm finding being single to feel good. Still, it's been awhile since I've just been on my own and while I know I'll be fine by myself for now, the pandemic makes meeting new people in a more normal fashion tough so here I am shooting my shot. I'm just trying to see who I meet and if there's any kind of decent connections to be made. No pressure.
What I'm into/looking for: Now here's where you come in, as my title says I'm looking for the pleasure and company of an older lady but considering I've actually gotten some messages from interested ladies my age or younger as well I'm open to anyone really. Appearance wise i don't have a long list of preferences, but thickecurvier body types tend to be what I find myself attracted to. Need my dose of thiccc thighs. Age wise I figure 40-60 is a fair range but if you meet the curvy credentials than as long as your are 18-60 I don't mind, shoot your shot. And I have no ethnic background preference but I've happened to mostly date white, hispanic and asian women (could be that's who I attract, just an observation not a limitation) so that is what it is. Beyond appearance as long as we can carry a conversation together and click in that regard I think we'll get along fine
Anyways, if my description sounds like the kind of man you are after, send me details or what you think we'd have in common and a pic of you will get some of me.
Lets keep each other sane and satiated as we can during this quarantine.
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2020.09.28 16:04 CovidMdBot 9/28/2020 In the last 24 hours there have been 477 new confirmed COVID-19 cases in Maryland. There has now been a total of 123,880 confirmed cases.

SUMMARY (9/28/2020)
YESTERDAY'S TESTING STATISTICS IN MARYLAND
Metric 24 HR Total Prev 7 Day Avg Today vs 7 Day Avg
Number of Tests 19,810 23,634 -16.2%
Number of Positive Tests 587 588 -0.1%
Percent Positive Tests 2.96% 2.57% +15.2%
State Reported 7-day Rolling Positive Testing Percent: 3%
Testing metrics are distinct from case metrics as an individual may be tested multiple times.
SUMMARY STATISTICS IN MARYLAND
Metric 24 HR Total Prev 7 Day Avg Today vs 7 Day Avg Total to Date
Number of confirmed cases 477 464 +2.8% 123,880
Number of confirmed deaths 3 8 -61.8% 3,793
Number of probable deaths 0 0 -100.0% 145
Number of persons tested negative 8,259 8,806 -6.2% 1,479,219
Ever hospitalized 30 40 -24.7% 15,428
Released from isolation 13 12 +5.8% 7,476
Total testing volume 17,902 23,634 -24.3% 2,573,607
CURRENT HOSPITALIZATION USAGE
Metric Total 24 HR Delta Prev 7 Day Avg Delta Delta vs 7 Day Avg
Currently hospitalized 315 -13 +7 -293.6%
Acute care 233 -5 +4 -240.0%
Intensive care 82 -8 +3 -354.5%
The Currently hospitalized metric appears to be the sum of the Acute care and Intensive care metrics.
Cases and Deaths Data Breakdown
CASES BY COUNTY
County Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
Allegany 464 1 23 1 0 0
Anne Arundel 10,027 58 236 0 12 0
Baltimore County 17,902 65 603 3 23 0
Baltimore City 15,582 57 469 0 18 0
Calvert 950 8 27 0 1 0
Caroline 652 6 7 0 0 0
Carroll 1,952 4 123 0 3 0
Cecil 1,068 11 34 0 1 0
Charles 2,770 11 99 0 2 0
Dorchester 593 0 10 0 0 0
Frederick 4,054 17 125 1 7 0
Garrett 74 0 1 0 0 0
Harford 3,039 18 72 0 4 0
Howard 5,082 21 116 0 6 0
Kent 304 0 22 0 2 0
Montgomery 22,421 61 807 3 40 0
Prince George's 29,305 95 805 1 23 0
Queen Anne's 662 3 25 0 1 0
Somerset 278 2 5 0 0 0
St. Mary's 1,302 11 57 0 0 0
Talbot 565 6 6 0 0 0
Washington 1,794 7 37 0 0 0
Wicomico 1,992 17 48 0 0 0
Worcester 1,048 -2 26 0 1 0
Data not available 0 0 10 -6 1 0
CASES BY AGE & GENDER:
Demographic Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
0-9 4,616 31 0 0 0 0
10-19 10,435 74 2 0 0 0
20-29 23,386 95 23 0 1 0
30-39 22,405 77 47 0 6 0
40-49 19,804 62 122 0 3 0
50-59 18,091 70 311 0 16 0
60-69 12,096 36 625 0 13 0
70-79 7,206 23 945 2 28 0
80+ 5,841 9 1,716 1 78 0
Data not available 0 0 2 0 0 0
Female 65,433 241 1,852 3 76 0
Male 58,447 236 1,941 0 69 0
Sex Unknown 0 0 0 0 0 0
CASES BY RACE:
Race Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
African-American (NH) 39,257 146 1,555 3 55 0
White (NH) 31,027 169 1,603 3 71 0
Hispanic 26,824 58 439 1 12 0
Asian (NH) 2,344 10 143 1 6 0
Other (NH) 5,697 32 42 0 0 0
Data not available 18,731 62 11 -5 1 0
MAP OF CASES:
MAP (9/28/2020)
TOTAL MD CASES:
TOTAL MD CASES (9/28/2020)
CURRENT MD HOSP. & TOTAL DEATHS:
CURRENT MD HOSP. & TOTAL DEATHS (9/28/2020)
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2020.09.27 21:31 chaosdunk69 29 [M4F] LosAngeles - COVID Free Game Collector and All Purpose Nerd for Quality Connections

Welcome all, shooting your shot just doesn't work the same during a pandemic so here we are.
I'm Clint, nice to meet you.
If you're stopping by this post it's mostly likely because you may be like me. Doing your best to follow the rules during the pandemic, holding on but still feeling like you miss good human connection and maybe just want someone to connect with who hopefully has similar hobbies and interests. I've poked my head into other spaces but dating apps feel a bit less personal than a long winded essay about me so here I am (doing everything I can...the new Tony Hawk remake is wild).
Anyways, hopefully my blurbs and willingness to talk will attract you, keep you wanting to chat more and get into it. If you're looking for something quality that we can chill and take our time with, look no further because I think I've got some personal details that won't completely disappoint. I don't need to get married and don't need to find the love of my life right at this moment but I can't deny I'd like to make a good quality connection again. So lets get to it:
Stats (someone rolled me a good stat sheet awhile back): I'm 29 years old, 6'0 tall, brown hair and eyes, white/hispanic mixed, in decent shape, 170lbs, college educated (BA in Communications, and applying to Grad School), can travel/drive, don't mind some weekend drinking but I watch myself and while I enjoy an edible sparingly here and there, I'm drug free otherwise laid back and easy to get along with.
Career:Work wise I work for small businesses as a project and digital media manager, usually helping them grow. Currently I'm with a fire security company and I help them manage projects and their digital output (mostly advertising but how they do it online) and I also do a bit of teaching on the side to kids in music programs and that's been all digital with how the world is turning.
Hobbies: I'm big into video games, I like to collect and learn about old and new projects and try out new games as much as I can. I also like following movies and shows. I'm a big fan of new cooking recipes and when quarantine isn't happening I do like traveling. I also play Dance Dance Revolution as my main means of working out so if you also love going to the arcade gym, that's a good start.
My status: I'm single. My last relationship ended months ago and it wasnt a long one, COVID just ensured it wouldn't last. It sucks but we mutually made the best call and we are still friends now. With that, I've taken some time to myself and I'm finding being single to feel good. Still, it's been awhile since I've just been on my own and while I know I'll be fine by myself for now, the pandemic makes meeting new people in a more normal fashion tough so here I am shooting my shot. I'm just trying to see who I meet and if there's any kind of decent connections to be made.
What I'm into/looking for: Now here's where you come in, as my title says ideally I'm looking for a good connection that can grow and who knows, maybe we can work to make it last. Appearance wise i don't have a long list of preferences, but thickecurvier body types tend to be what I find myself attracted to. Age wise I figure 21-32 is a fair range. And I have no ethnic background preference but I've happened to mostly date white, hispanic and asian women (could be that's who I attract, just an observation not a limitation) so that is what it is but all shades and backgrounds are welcome. Beyond appearance as long as we can carry a conversation together and click in that regard I think we'll get along fine. Someone who also has a passion for games and enjoying life is preferred.
Anyways, if my description sounds like the kind of man you are after, send me details or what you think we'd have in common and a pic of you will get some of me.
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2020.09.27 16:03 CovidMdBot 9/27/2020 In the last 24 hours there have been 431 new confirmed COVID-19 cases in Maryland. There has now been a total of 123,403 confirmed cases.

SUMMARY (9/27/2020)
YESTERDAY'S TESTING STATISTICS IN MARYLAND
Metric 24 HR Total Prev 7 Day Avg Today vs 7 Day Avg
Number of Tests 30,051 23,468 +28.0%
Number of Positive Tests 576 584 -1.3%
Percent Positive Tests 1.92% 2.56% -25.1%
State Reported 7-day Rolling Positive Testing Percent: 3%
Testing metrics are distinct from case metrics as an individual may be tested multiple times.
SUMMARY STATISTICS IN MARYLAND
Metric 24 HR Total Prev 7 Day Avg Today vs 7 Day Avg Total to Date
Number of confirmed cases 431 461 -6.5% 123,403
Number of confirmed deaths 10 7 +45.8% 3,790
Number of probable deaths 0 0 -100.0% 145
Number of persons tested negative 9,632 8,895 +8.3% 1,470,960
Ever hospitalized 16 38 -57.4% 15,398
Released from isolation 5 12 -58.3% 7,463
Total testing volume 30,047 23,468 +28.0% 2,555,705
CURRENT HOSPITALIZATION USAGE
Metric Total 24 HR Delta Prev 7 Day Avg Delta Delta vs 7 Day Avg
Currently hospitalized 328 -19 +3 -678.3%
Acute care 238 -28 +2 -1252.9%
Intensive care 90 +9 +1 +950.0%
The Currently hospitalized metric appears to be the sum of the Acute care and Intensive care metrics.
Cases and Deaths Data Breakdown
CASES BY COUNTY
County Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
Allegany 463 2 22 0 0 0
Anne Arundel 9,969 36 236 1 12 0
Baltimore County 17,837 55 600 1 23 0
Baltimore City 15,525 41 469 0 18 0
Calvert 942 3 27 0 1 0
Caroline 646 2 7 0 0 0
Carroll 1,948 4 123 0 3 0
Cecil 1,057 1 34 0 1 0
Charles 2,759 6 99 0 2 0
Dorchester 593 1 10 0 0 0
Frederick 4,037 18 124 0 7 0
Garrett 74 2 1 0 0 0
Harford 3,021 13 72 0 4 0
Howard 5,061 27 116 0 6 0
Kent 304 1 22 0 2 0
Montgomery 22,360 85 804 0 40 0
Prince George's 29,210 80 804 0 23 0
Queen Anne's 659 5 25 0 1 0
Somerset 276 4 5 1 0 0
St. Mary's 1,291 3 57 0 0 0
Talbot 559 4 6 0 0 0
Washington 1,787 17 37 0 0 0
Wicomico 1,975 16 48 0 0 0
Worcester 1,050 5 26 1 1 0
Data not available 0 0 16 6 1 0
CASES BY AGE & GENDER:
Demographic Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
0-9 4,585 27 0 0 0 0
10-19 10,361 71 2 0 0 0
20-29 23,291 96 23 0 1 0
30-39 22,328 63 47 0 6 0
40-49 19,742 51 122 0 3 0
50-59 18,021 56 311 1 16 0
60-69 12,060 34 625 1 13 0
70-79 7,183 16 943 2 28 0
80+ 5,832 17 1,715 6 78 0
Data not available 0 0 2 0 0 0
Female 65,192 227 1,849 2 76 0
Male 58,211 204 1,941 8 69 0
Sex Unknown 0 0 0 0 0 0
CASES BY RACE:
Race Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
African-American (NH) 39,111 117 1,552 4 55 0
White (NH) 30,858 223 1,600 -1 71 0
Hispanic 26,766 66 438 0 12 0
Asian (NH) 2,334 4 142 1 6 0
Other (NH) 5,665 31 42 0 0 0
Data not available 18,669 -10 16 6 1 0
MAP OF CASES:
MAP (9/27/2020)
TOTAL MD CASES:
TOTAL MD CASES (9/27/2020)
CURRENT MD HOSP. & TOTAL DEATHS:
CURRENT MD HOSP. & TOTAL DEATHS (9/27/2020)
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2020.09.27 11:43 Vermarine21 Miraculous New York Reflections

Bonjour everyone! You know a year and two months ago I joined this subreddit in part because I wanted to get some things off my chest about the season 3 finale. Since then I've been a very occasionally sharing some creative thoughts taking in some interesting fun facts and just generally waiting with anticipation for the fourth season of miraculous ladybug with you all. And now that the lava way New York special has air specifically taking place between seasons 3 and season 4, I think it's only apropos that I do my own very first reflection of a miraculous episode.

Let me start off by saying that this Special, while maybe not perfect, was pretty good bordering on great for what it was. Actually taking place at a specific point in continuity as opposed to just being a self contained one and done(more on that later) lent this Special quite a bit of context, motivation, tension, and familiarity that bridges the gap between two seasons while making it clear that these characters are leaving there own preoccupied world and entering a whole other. There are a number of brief yet significant scenes where the show's many major recurring characters and even some of the supporting ones have a bit of spotlight that reminds you of their stake in the story and swiftly sets the tone for where they are will go in season 4.

Is Ms. Bustier married? I actually had to check to see if she is indeed a Miss rather than a Mrs since her not being able to go on the trip has to do with her being pregnant, which obviously takes two. It really makes you wonder if we'll get a Ladybug baby shower episode or something, if not a conflict themed around the delivery.

Ms. Mendeleev is placed in charge of chaperone duties for the trip in what almost seemed like it was going to be a fourth/fifth subplot for the special. It seems like she may ease up a bit on the strictness, given that she seemed genuinely affected by the student's disappointment at her inclusion and even agreed to swap seats with Marinette when they spoke up on her behalf. A bit surprised she didn't catch on to the party at some point, though and she kinda disappears for the rest of the run.

Lila ends up being the only classmate staying in Paris, possibly due to her mom either still being under the impression the school is akumatized or not allowing her to go too far without her in general. Also, am I crazy or was she the one person who didn't seem moved by Ms. Bustier's announcement? Considering what happens halfway through the special, I can't help but wonder if she's gonna have legitimate ammo against the heroes next season in addition to the seeds planted among the school.

Interesting that Chloe didn't want to go to New York, only to almost certainly be made to do so by her parents(who probably want the Hotel to themselves). I honestly can't think of a reason for that beyond her just not wanting to deal with anyone right now after what happened with Ladybug and Hawkmoth; it's never touched on either, as she joins Ms. Mendeleev in ducking out. It's abruptness is clearly setting the stage for her slippage in Season 4.

Mr. Damocles really has been of a more genial air since his akuma episode and even seems less inclined to fear the Mayor, though that could also be because he had already spoken to him prior to Chloe's objection. Also, he had one of the funnier moments in the special with the Heroes on the plane.

Kagami shows up for almost literally half a minute fencing with Adrien, remarking that it's not fun besting him when he's "weak" and kissing him goodbye for the day. Whoo? She seemed unaware/indifferent of the trip, so maybe we'll get a brief follow-up of him not showing up the following day or so.

Nathalie is bedriden, but decidedly not dead/slumbering. Not only that, but she can apparently still use the fixed Peacock with seemingly no strings attached. The implications of this is...good for her[fans], but not for the heroes.

Gabriel mentioned keeping an eye on Adrien--what was that about? His subplot is fittingly the most direct bit of plot in the special, as his suspicions about there being other Miraculouses sets up future specials and seasons, but that line amidst using Marinette's convincing to elude Adrien's notice seemed out of place. Especially since he does next to nothing of the sort beyond sending his limo to pick him up after the first attack.

Adrien's bodyguard turns out to be fearful of airplane flying and as such manages to spend the entire special listening to a soothing audio therapy, completely unawares of any of the excitement that takes place.

Luka has a brisk thematic appearance getting Marinette onto the bus taking the class to the airport using his bike, suggesting that New York will be a chance to clear the air on how to move forward. I do like how this loosely implies he is touching base with her more often than before and yiu'd be lying if I said it contributed less than Kagami's scene did--especially with a lowkey but important callback prior to the final act.

This is technically a part of the New York stuff, but it's going here: Sabrina with the hookup! 😀 Ch'yeah, completely unexpected by the checkoff, it seems that Sabrina might just have established a long distance relationship with one of the Americans that adds to something I'll get into later. In general, the special through her a bit of a bone similar to Ms. Bustier and Mendeleev, which makes a bit more sense when we've had that interview about her getting development in Season 4 for a while now. If I can make a minor point bordering on pickiness here, part of me kinda wishes we got a little more on that and/or that guy was a tad less generic--barring the chance he isn't named in the credits, his design seemed ironically grounded in a show has such few African descending characters to begin with.

Getting to the meat of the American plot, it too sets the tone for a number of things about the mythology and provides some brief contrasts amidst its personal ensemble that I suspect with become more relevant as the show continues, both for obvious reasons and a few subtler ones. Marinette, Adrian, Gabriel, Aeon, and Jesse are the principal stars of this special, with Alya, Olympia, Barb, and Techno Pirate also being important supporting players; this means much of the stakes are based around Marinette and Adrian's bridging friendship, Ladybug and Cat Noir's trust in each other's abilities, Majestia, Knight Owl, Uncanny Valley, and Sparrow's intervention into their worthiness as heroes, and Hawkmoth's investigation about the Miraculouses' influence on world history.

Getting it out the way because it's the heart I normally don't care about, Marinette and Adrien's connection is... oddly balance in this episode. Getting it out the way, I must say that Marinette doesn't come across quite as trifling as the preview clip made her look: her freudian slips about husbands, babies, and staring in his eyes were confirmed tk the first their of the special and most of the other stuff are her reacting to unexpected compromises that she tries to stay away from. It's actually Adrien who almost seems dtc abroad, what with joining her for a beautiful sunset(when everyone else is asleep, mind) at the back of the plane, getting into fairly small spaces with her, and getting close to each other at least three times; I know half of that were accidents and he was honoring their being good friends, but how do you justify him ending up literally on top of her in the hotel and staying there regardless of how hilarious that gag was? (No, but for real though, those scene got funnier as the episode went on.)

Getting to the superhero elements here, Ladybug leaves Chat Noir in charge of protecting Paris with a button meant to summon her in case of an emergency. Now aside from the inevitable anger at him leaving his post to show up in New York, I thought this was going to be a total non-issue, especially since we know hot moth was going to be in New York as well. Boy, were we wrong about that! In fact, we were so wrong that so much justified tension between them causes something horrible to happen for a bit in New York, resulting in Chat Noir relinquishing Plagg out of guilt and Adrien being pulled from the trip to be privately flown back home. It's thanks to the intervention of Uncanny Valley that the two come back together, recognize how much they mean to each other as teammates, and join her and Sparrow in saving not only Paris, but New York's heroes as well.

Hate to break up the pacing, but I guess I got include them somewhere: the GOAT Alya has a role to play...oh, and Nino's there too. Somewhat fed up with Marinette being unable to clarify how she feels about Adrian already, the two decide to do their own Operation New York mission in order to gently convince the two to get together already. They end up feeling like the closest thing to an audience surrogate in a Special that kind of feels like a collective saving throw in general; of particular note is getting Jesse to play the song from Chloe's apology party while the two dance above the hotel roof(makes sense in context) and Alya coming back into form by directly asking Marinette to decide if she really wants Adrien to leave or not, prompting her to attempt to chase after the limo on a bike. A bit of a shame she didn't get to meet her original heroine in person, but ah well.

The American Heroes were generally alright, if a bit negligible C-plot characters aside from maybe Uncanny Valley; after her, Sparrow was an okay-whatever counterpart to her who I guess was supposed to be the cool one, Doorman was a funny "wth is he doing here" side hero, and Knight Owl was Batman lite to Majestia's Superman for a select few minutes. There were a number of other Heroes on the team with them, but most of them were breezed aside background characters or at least akuma victims who go by so fast that they are not really worth hitting on them right now. Despite how little there is to/of them in screentime, there are a few things that might be worth noting about the main four in implication that justifies splitting them up for convenience.

Aeon and Jesse take the lead being assigned to observe Marinette and Adrien as members of their peer group while debating how their approach could stand to stray from their mentor's guidelines, hoping to gauge the two's closeness in tandem with their capabilities. The dynamic between the two, while not the strongest thing given they're both new and what screentime they have, did a decent job of carrying their scenes and showing how the influence each other in slightly untraditional ways: Jesse is the spicy one with an attitude, but she generally sticks to orders beyond minor bits of alleviating her boredom, while Aeon is surprisingly the one more comfortable with using Majestia's own motto as an excuse to deviate from the plan despite somewhat literally being the Data/Spock of the duo. Ultimately, these two just seek to help Ladybug and Chat Noir while breaking from their mentor's dependence a bit.

Easily the biggest takeaway from this special has to do with how the Miraculouses do have their blind spots that need to be kept in mind--and dramatically so. The long-term Wham of the special comes when Mayura unexpectedly strikes in Paris using a Sentimonster of Robostus--this not only shows that Nathalie is decidedly not down for the count, but it establishes a clear limit in that Ladybug needs to be present so she can defeat the supervillains and use her Magic Ladybugs as quickly as possible to repair the damage they cause. These massive implications stand to raise the stakes in the future as Hawkmoth really can't be ignored during any globetrotting or else the havoc he reeks can't be undone; it also means that Ladybug and Chat Noir's absence will likely have lingering consequences going into the next season, as they weren't there to protect or possibly even save a few people.

Barb and Olympia somewhat function as parental figures who end up coming down on the younger heroes a bit when Ladybug and Chat Noir come across as a borderline lethally duo, demanding their Miraculouses with the intention of confiscating them for the rest of their stay and putting their two "daughters"(?) on the sidelines since they deliberately strayed from their instructions and got caught in the crossfire. They ultimately spend the rest of the special as either victims of the Miraculous wielding akuma or heavy support that indeed end the battles quickly not long after joining them. Also, I'll touch in another aspect of this later, but peculiar how the two big heroes of New York seem to have daughters who appear to be Hispanic/Navajo and African American, respectively, while spending an almost inseparable amount of time together.

Hawkmoth maintains his Magnificent Bastard status in traveling to New York in secret, recruiting an actual supervillain, and claiming the Miraculous on display unimpeded, all to confirm and test a theory regarding the existence of other Miraculouses that have indeed had an impact on history just as Alya theorized. The talon worn by Gilbert de Motier did in fact turn out to be the Eagle Miraculous with the Kwami Liiri, which he then gives to the already successful Techno Pirate as part of a plan to draw out all of the heroes to reek more havoc and maybe acquire Ladybug and Chat Noir's Miraculouses while they're in New York. Though this fails and he somewhat surprisingly doesn't keep the Eagle, he ultimately didn't need to--he got the knowledge he really came for, possibly shook the faith in superheroes for a bit, and now intends to travel the world in search of other lost Miraculouses in future seasons/specials.

The special's akuma of the day comes in the form of Mike Rochip aka Techno Pirate, an actual supervillain vaguely resembling Savage Dragon with a thin pirate dialect and an inclination towards stealing technologies for himself. This guy manages to be both an unwitting small time pawn in Hawkmoth's game(being tied up in a bathtub at his mercy and being genuinely confused as he's being rearrested) and yet a look at how legitimately devastating a real supervillain can be. Highlights stealing a turbine off of the plane containing almost all of the teenage cast, nearly killing Uncanny Valley numerous times, and notably being nonchalant in asking whether Hawkmoth would rather have an atomic bomb. His akumatized form Technolizer gained Doc Ock like arms that only ramped up his technopath powers and made him more destructive with minimal attention on his part and he even gets upgraded into Miraclonizer using the Eagle Miraculous's Liberation, which similar to Hawkmoth's akumatization allows the user to free people of their fetters so they can accomplish things they wouldn't have been able to willingly. Heck, it wouldn't surprise me if the missile strike plan at the end, which Hawkmoth notes could start a cold war by breaking the peace between America and France, was his suggestion given he personally counted down to its launch for joy.

Uncanny Valley(lol love that name, btw) was the sweet android loosely reminiscent of Vision, with a rather cute civilian design to contrast her creepy true form; Aeon is an AI created by Majestia who acts her daughter with an cloaked third eye with projection capabilities. While this "future fav' girl" might not be the greatest thing since Camembert, she is the most memorable of the new characters given her memorable designs, quirked if lowkey nature, and interesting origin that kinda begs for more. She also logically reinforces the notion that Kwami's can't be recorded by being unable to see or even hear Plagg, which makes sense given her eyes are basically cameras.

Anyone else get inklings of LGBT symbolism out of the other main Heroes Aeon? Knight Owl and Sparrow are very male passing heroes who are revealed to be a part of a legacy that they were trying to keep alive until Eagle's part in defeating of Techclonizer caused Jesse to reveal the truth about her gender. This even extends to Olympia and Barb herself, who noticeably corrects Jesse referring to them all as heroines and briefly leans on the former in a loving way after deciding it's time to let the masquerade come to an end.

And now for my final point, let's address about the setting in general: We're coming back to New York at some point. Even putting aside the obvious resourcefulness of producing this many assets for a one off Special, there are too many hooks and implications among them that suggest the heroes will keep in touch. The French American Friendship Week framing device kinda underscores all the actual evidence by being a legitimate link between the Miraculous Team of Paris and the American Heroes of New York.

It is mentioned early on that not only are the heroes well known, but that the public is well aware of most of their identities due to how much a part of American life they are; the Doorman in particular gives tours at the museum, entertains his many fans, and remembers to use his powers for the purpose getting others to safety. This is in sharp contrast to the Miraculous Wielders, who per the greater good and simple pragmatism have to keep their identities a secret less they lose their Miraculous to the Order of the Guardians or Hawkmoth.

Hot Dog Dan, the costumed vendor who shows up to the rooftop party at the hotel, serves two functions in his brief appearance. One is back up Alya mentioning how there's a hero for everything in New York since he basically flies in using balloons to what was supposedly a secret party and the other comes in the form of his magic hotdogs that each come with a particular temporary side effect. This is effectively establishes a more readily accessible version of the Spellbook's powerup recipes, which could allow side characters without a Miraculous to get in on the action without needing a hero or villain identity.

So many supers being commonplace to one notorious locale means that there is an entire League of Superheroes that the main four are a part of--even the friggin Mayor Hombee goes from sternly staring into your soul for a national press conference to suiting up seconds after to declare they will stop Technolizer and Hawkmoth, which got a laugh out of me. Again, the mere fact that we see a decent amount of this guys not get to do much suggests that we'll likely get to see them again at some point. For example, you know that Ice Heroine who had a part of her model shared through social media on the way to this getting a release date? Shows up in the background of like two scenes without a namedrop as far as I remember and never actually gets a scene.

Jesse is the American hero who gets the closest thing to an arc that not only sees her branch out of her mother's(?) wing, but also gives her a blink and you miss it connection to the greater mythos. Getting the superficial meta stuff out of the way for the few who might not know, Sparrow is one of the original three Quantic Kids from the earliest concepts of the show and thus her(originally his) can be seen as a canon immigrant precursor of what could have been Team Miraculous. With that said, I would like to point out how Eagle could very well reappears in the future for a good number of other reasons that may prove crucial to not only the character, but the plot as well. First, recall that the talon was dormant in the museum ever since Gilbert used it in the American Revolution, with Liiri being unaware that he's long dead for centuries. Next, Gabriel himself greeted Liiri to float about being correct as opposed to remaining as Hawkmoth using his Butterfly Miraculous, something we know he is entirely capable of and, spoilers, will do in season 4. As the cherry on top, Jesse and Aeon, who were very aware of who Ladybug and Chat Noir were from the jump, are now in possession from very Eagle Miraculous that Liiri is bonded to. I'll let you go past the equal sign....

And at the very end of the special was an undeniable indication of things to come: while watching over the celebration of the city from the rooftops, Eagle and Uncanny Valley are approached by none other than a Guardian! Reminiscent of an Native American chieftain himself, he asks that they surrender their Miraculous to his Miracle Box without any trouble, but seems to respond to Jesse's suggestion that they work together to protect New York with a smile. This is something that's been set to happen since Ladybug destroyed Feast--the Order of the Guardians have been restored alongside their temple, plucked from disappearing in a different time, and now they're beginning to venture into this whole new world with the perogative of reclaiming the Miraculouses. Assuming he agreed to help the American Heroes, his approval could serve as stark contrast to that of the Guardian who will inevitably come to Paris to clean up the remnants of Master Fu's decisions.

Here are a few bonus jots/musings that I took while watching:

The music in this special primarily invokes an Avengers feel, while Chat Noir noticeably bounces back with what sounds like a Patriotic rendition of his own Claws Out theme. This can awesomely silly or overly epic depending on how you look at it.

The episode proper starts with Mr. Pigeon taking off into space on the Eiffel, causing Cosmo Bug and Astro Cat to hand him his 51th defeat.

Did we see that flower color conversion before or am I just misremembering? The point about yellow representing friendship in particular rings a bell and I'm not talking about Chat Noir's.

Everyone was weirdly pitched down in this special, as confirmed through squeaky Tikki almost sounding like a normal person and Nino sounding nothing like himself. I thought they were going for everyone getting older even if it wouldn't make sense at first, but it sounds like the entire special received this effect for some reason. Perhaps one day, someone can make an edit where the characters sound normal.

It seems the impetus for the school trip was the entire class making student film narrated by Kim around George Washington and Marquis de Lafayette, which kinda evoke a bit of Ho Yay through the sock puppets attempting to hug looking more like make outs and the line about "no boundaries" being suspiciously timed. I actually had to do double take at student names in the credits

I just noticed Ms Mendeleev has calculus symbols on her shirt.

Principal Damocles is huge! I know the scale of character proportions has always been anime Polly Pocket to peculiar Pixar monstrocity, but he's about as big as the fucking airplane seat. Not wonder Marinette, who's pretty tiny in one herself, caught a tight spot when he managed to fall asleep and eventually over holdin a movie bucket of popcorn.

Anyone else thought Jesse was gonna sing when she came with the guitar and especially once Alya asked her if she knew a song?

Not sure I like the two's shrunken eyed brunette ala Beware the Batman and younger white Madea look as civilians though.

Once again, Marinette and Adrien end up detransforming on the back foot with a sewer wall between them.

Am I the only one who had small flip out when Uncanny Valley broke into Gabriel's jet to get Chat Noir back in the game?

Remind me, what was so significant about the Statue of Liberty that the key had to be kept in the Eiffel Tower?
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2020.09.27 04:02 atrueregalslife i’m sorry, i’m pissed

before i start this, i just want to say in NO WAY AT ALL am i anti-semitic or saying the holocaust was okay. some of my oldest friends are jewish, i love their culture and religion, and my heart goes out to the millions of people affected by world war ii. trigger warning, this talks quite a bit about the holocaust.
what i realized a lot of people don’t know is that the swastika is NOT a nazi symbol. the swastika is an ancient symbol from cultures all over the world, that is mainly used in hindu, jain, and buddhist culture. the nazi symbol is called a hakencreuz. google it, i don’t want to take up space here, but here’s a basic image of a hindu swastika vs the nazi symbol.
https://static01.nyt.com/images/2015/08/02/education/02FORUM1/02FORUM1-articleLarge.jpg?quality=90&auto=webp
as you can see, they’re very different. hitler stole a universal symbol of love and peace and appropriated it into a hate symbol.
now, what i’m angry about. i came across an article about how asians have NO right to reclaim the swastika. i’ll link the article here. https://www.ou.org/life/inspiration/not-reclaiming-swastika/ okay... wow. first of all, this is literally hinduphobic and is erasing asia’s beautiful culture. it claims that hindus, buddhists, and jains are ‘third party’ and don’t get to use it. i mean... what? if you don’t see the problem here, i don’t know what to tell you. but let me try to explain exactly how this is problematic and asian erasure in the western world.
let’s use that person’s analogy: the swastika is like the n-word. it can only be reclaimed by jews because that’s who it was used against. ^ see that part i wrote up there? about how the swastika is NOT the same thing as the nazi symbol? yes. they are different and have different meanings. now, let’s look at the n-word.
the n-word originates from the spanish word negro, which means black. so it went from negro to a word used by whites against black people, to now when the black community has reclaimed it. now, the hakencreuz. it went from a symbol dating back thousands of years, to a symbol of antisemitism, and now ‘only jews can reclaim it’. okay, yes, only jews can reclaim the symbol on the nazi flag. i totally agree with that. but are you saying only black people can say negro? non-black people can say negro, as it has none of the negative connotation as the n-word does and it’s important to hispanic culture and the language. just like that, jews cannot reclaim the swastik. was a twisted version of it used against jews? yes, just as a twisted version of the word negro was used against black people. but this doesn’t give black people a hold over the word negro, and it doesn’t give jewish people a hold over the swastika.
articles like the one up there are dangerous. people have been attacked for wearing the sacred swastika while they are just trying to spread peace and good fortune. we HAVE to start educating people. news flash, the entire planet doesn’t revolve around the northwestern quarter of the globe. in many parts of asia, not much is taught about world war ii, because it’s a western war. many people move here, and put the swastik on their door or wear a swastik pendant on their necklace. is it because they hate jews? absolutely not!! hinduism, jainism, and buddhism are some of the most peaceful religions out there and preach not harming others and spreading love. should the nazi symbol be considered a hate symbol? absolutely!! it’s disgusting that anyone would ever wear that. but i’m sick of people looking at everything, even global issues like antisemitism and racism through their eurocentric glasses. if i ever do something with a swastika, it isn’t because i hate jews! it’s because i believe in the hindu meaning of the swastika. so please, stop with this asian erasure and let us reclaim our sacred symbol. and yes, the nazi symbol should be totally exiled and anyone who supports it should be jailed. thank you.
please tell me your perspectives, regardless of religion. i would love to hear what other people think!!
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2020.09.26 16:12 CovidMdBot 9/26/2020 In the last 24 hours there have been 613 new confirmed COVID-19 cases in Maryland. There has now been a total of 122,972 confirmed cases.

SUMMARY (9/26/2020)
YESTERDAY'S TESTING STATISTICS IN MARYLAND
Metric 24 HR Total Prev 7 Day Avg Today vs 7 Day Avg
Number of Tests 31,639 24,253 +30.5%
Number of Positive Tests 779 584 +33.5%
Percent Positive Tests 2.46% 2.51% -2.1%
State Reported 7-day Rolling Positive Testing Percent: 3%
Testing metrics are distinct from case metrics as an individual may be tested multiple times.
SUMMARY STATISTICS IN MARYLAND
Metric 24 HR Total Prev 7 Day Avg Today vs 7 Day Avg Total to Date
Number of confirmed cases 613 471 +30.1% 122,972
Number of confirmed deaths 8 7 +16.7% 3,780
Number of probable deaths 0 0 NaN% 145
Number of persons tested negative 11,203 9,189 +21.9% 1,461,328
Ever hospitalized 54 37 +46.5% 15,382
Released from isolation 27 11 +136.2% 7,458
Total testing volume 31,639 24,252 +30.5% 2,525,658
CURRENT HOSPITALIZATION USAGE
Metric Total 24 HR Delta Prev 7 Day Avg Delta Delta vs 7 Day Avg
Currently hospitalized 347 +3 0 -800.0%
Acute care 266 +1 0 +250.0%
Intensive care 81 +2 -1 -380.0%
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County Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
Allegany 461 1 22 0 0 0
Anne Arundel 9,933 60 235 1 12 0
Baltimore County 17,782 62 599 0 23 0
Baltimore City 15,484 53 469 1 18 0
Calvert 939 6 27 0 1 0
Caroline 644 4 7 1 0 0
Carroll 1,944 7 123 1 3 0
Cecil 1,056 18 34 0 1 0
Charles 2,753 8 99 0 2 0
Dorchester 592 5 10 0 0 0
Frederick 4,019 24 124 0 7 0
Garrett 72 0 1 0 0 0
Harford 3,008 22 72 0 4 0
Howard 5,034 21 116 -1 6 0
Kent 303 3 22 0 2 0
Montgomery 22,275 90 804 2 40 0
Prince George's 29,130 135 804 2 23 0
Queen Anne's 654 2 25 0 1 0
Somerset 272 9 4 0 0 0
St. Mary's 1,288 14 57 0 0 0
Talbot 555 4 6 0 0 0
Washington 1,770 50 37 0 0 0
Wicomico 1,959 10 48 0 0 0
Worcester 1,045 5 25 0 1 0
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40-49 19,691 74 122 0 3 0
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80+ 5,815 6 1,709 3 78 0
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Male 58,007 305 1,933 8 69 0
Sex Unknown 0 0 0 0 0 0
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Race Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
African-American (NH) 38,994 125 1,548 1 55 0
White (NH) 30,635 161 1,601 4 71 0
Hispanic 26,700 79 438 1 12 0
Asian (NH) 2,330 4 141 1 6 0
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2020.09.26 12:56 AsianParmAsian I feel like gay guys treat me the worst.

This is a very long post telling the different kinds of relationships I've had with gay guys, whether platonic, romantic, or sexual, I have never seen any of these men again.
As a Hispanic bi guy, I feel like I know when and where to complain about certain things. I can take alot of verbal shit from people just because I usually talk back with wit, humor and cuntiness or just not give a shit about what most people think. But I take things personally usually when it regards someone close to me or any homophobia from my family.
For some context: I am a 20 year old college dropout that majored in music, I got outed to my parents about not being the "good Christian straight boy" they raised back in early January, and ever since then they would blame alot of my actions in 2019 as a reason for my depression and failed grades. I raised my GPA back up this May and did not return this Fall because continuing my music performance major is a terrible idea right now. So I picked up doordash and am currently saving up to find a place of my own because I need it for my own mental health.
  1. (22) Jason and I met in college through a community service program we were all required to do. We are quite different, he was the typical gay that likes musicals, limp wristed fem, etc. Despite us rarely hanging out, I depended on him to pick up when I felt extremely depressed back in 2019. The last time we hung out was in January of 2020. The reason we stopped talking was because I posted a "messy bottom" joke on my story, and quickly after he lashes out at me over text saying how offensive that joke was and later went on to call me a bully just because of my dark sense of humor (he has already known that I have a dark sense of humor, and I've told much worse in front of him). We haven't spoken since; Jason I guess was my wake up call to start cutting the people I needed to out of my life.
  2. (19) Alex and I both majored in music. He was a freshman when I was a sophomore in college when we met. We barely paid attention to each other just because we were yet again quite different. He hangs out with "the girls and the gays" and I hung out with the instrumentalists and all the straight guys at the dorm he lived at. One Saturday night we notice each other on grindr and hook up at his dorm. We have a few hookups and he says that he wants me to fuck him, but then covid hits and we head back home for the rest of the semester. And believe it or not, the same messy bottom joke made him send me a text saying that we can't be friends anymore. And I just said ok, and I thought to myself "his loss" and moved on with my life.
  3. (25) Tyler and I met on a tinder right before lockdown. We went on a date where I picked him up, headed to a lakeshore, and just sat down and talked. I told him how much hell my parents were putting me through, how they threatened my tuition if I were to move out, and just how toxic they got after my "outing". The funny thing is that he is a counselor and a social worker. He was very nice and we had a very good platonic relationship. We actually called Jason at the time just to bug him because we had more mutual friends than we thought and both found it funny. I am generally a very open minded person and conversations with me can go on forever. When I came home from that date, my mom asked me why I came home so late and I told her why. She asked me if it was a guy or a girl and I said it was a guy. She said she was disappointed and therefore I just went back to my room and cried myself to sleep. A few weeks later, I'm texting Tyler when I found out that my mom had taken my lotion that was hidden in my backpack (her reasoning being that she doesn't want me covering up the smell of weed so she can catch me). At this point, I had a complete mental breakdown and called Tyler on snapchat and vented to him everything else I was dealing with at the time. As I bawled my eyes out, he said absolutely nothing and blocked me on everything after I hang up. I haven't heard from him since.
  4. (19) This gay is completely different and he's the reason I have a good plug for my dabpen that I medicate with. I met a stoner gay that I fucked the first time we met. He ended up being the first guy I ever top and he came in under a minute. I was honestly ok with that because I didn't like the place he lived in. Nevertheless, he ended up using me for money despite me getting smoked out almost every morning before work. After our general falling out, he blocked me on everything yet again and the last time I saw him was in this other grindr gay guy's story of them both smoking weed lol.
  5. (?) This one's just a toxic ass grindr gay that was "bareback all the way" and I walked out of his house in 2 minutes lol.
  6. (4?) Lied about his age and i left his house instantly.
  7. (38) This one is Derek the millionaire, we havent seen each other since lockdown after he smoked me out after texting me that he likes hanging out with me. We both were music majors, and he found me genuinely entertaining. He would tell me that he would fuck his plug and this other guy doesn't even respond for 2 weeks if you want gas 😆.
  8. (31) I am also the most upset at this one because this has been the hottest guy I've hooked up with ever. This one was the last straw and the main reason I am writing this. One Saturday morning, I meet Grayson on grindr. We exchange pics, we both shower at our own places, then I head over. I show up at his apartment and we sit at his kitchen. As I'm packing a joint, we're bonding quite well, he tells me he grew up in a unique town in my state, and I see his silver play button. In the conversation I ask him how his life is here in my city.. I ask him how he can make ends meet (given that his genre was affected the worst by adpocalypse) and he says Patreon. I don't even see the name of the YouTube channel because I know how much youtubers hate it when someone plays their videos around him. At some point he tells me he is meeting up with his friend to go fuck at a park in the woods, I said it was cool and that if he wanted me out before that I would be fine. He says that he plans to leave around 12. Before this, the conversation stayed relatively sex-free. We get high and then he pulls out a toy bow and arrow set he shoots a skeleton off of his banister. He lets me try it and I fail. He later offers to play the movie Party Monster and I say sure. He asks me if I want to go to the liquor store before he plays the movie, I remind him of his scheduled dick appointment, and we just sit on the couch and watch the movie. Within 5 minutes I ask to use the blanket on the other couch, he gives it to me and we continue watching the film for 30 minutes. Eventually, we start adjusting closer to each other and I break the ice. He admits he's horny and we start cuddling. We start having sexual small talk, I lay my head on his lap and he starts playing with my hair. I mention "I'm not a size queen" somewhere in the conversation. I guess I conveniently forgot that I had a blanket because my hard on was definitely setting in. I pull down his pants and his dick is ready for me to suck. It's clean, pretty, and my favorite shape and size. He's around 5.5" average thickness with an upward curve. I play with it for a solid minute. I then ask him if he wants to try and suck mine. I pull my pants down and I get the response "Oh my God, it's so thick." He seemed impressed but he was doing a pretty bad job of pleasuring me ngl. He could barely take it in his mouth and would make his motions quickly. I sort of figured he was pretty bad at giving head given that he's told me about bigger dicks he's been with. At some point we kiss and he is also a bad kisser; he admitted it at least. He jokes to me about the blanket he gave me, and I turn it back around to his dick. He is now sitting on the couch as I'm blowing him. He genuinely seems to enjoy it: hot moans, playing with hair, eye contact, it's all going really well. He climaxes and shoots a shot into my throat and then I jerk him off until he's done cumming. He says it felt super good and goes to wash up. I start jerking off as he goes to the bathroom. It's almost 1:15 so I figured doing that would be ok. I remember asking him after the hookup if the guy has texted him and he said no. As I'm jerking off, he comes back acting almost entirely different. Almost like having post nut clarity, he tells me to pack my shit and leave and I do just that. I don't get to cum after all I did for him and no confirmation from the other guy. This guy left a bad taste in my mouth because he gave me the "we might have to meet again" because of my dick size, says I'm hot (which I have had lots of self esteem issues), asks for me to middle man for him because he likes the weed we smoked, and even asked me for a ride to the liquor store before we hooked up, all of which I was down to do for him. And to then kick me out of his place after he cums I find it uncalled for. I never see him again and he blocked me on grindr a day later.
Now I've met shitty people from all backgrounds, but I have never seen such a horrible circle to get involved in. Im talking to a gay guy right now that left grindr for the general toxicity, lies, and manipulation. I actually hope this works out between us because he seems like the keeper type, and I know someone that knows him that can vouch for him being a sweetheart. fingers crossed
So these are 90% of the gay guys I've gotten to meet, whether on grindr, college, tinder, or real life. Most of them I have nothing in common with, are judgemental (I was raised 7th day Adventist), and straight up are inconsistent as fuck. My closest friends are generally straight guys, gaymers on discord, bi guys, and lesbians.
If you have advice, feedback, or your own stories to share go right ahead, I might feel less alone over this.
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2020.09.26 04:01 Fuzzy-Bodybuilder361 How can I escape my toxic family without creating bad blood

Sorry in advance this is a bit long but I could really use the help.
For some background. I am 17 and a high school senior in Florida. I live with my sister, mom, dad, and grandma. My sister and grandma are pretty great people. And my dad is mildly homophobic and racist but otherwise he’s a decent person. But my mom is all that and more.
They promised to help me pay for college and get a car and all these things. Originally i was planning on staying in Florida for college. I was grateful for everything they did to try and help me but soon I realized how toxic they are.
I always assumed they had my best interest in mind till I was in 6th grade. I realized spanking children wasn’t a normal thing and I became suicidal because of constantly getting punished for things I couldn’t control. If often get hit for doing homework instead of cleaning. I went to a counselor which called CPS to my house. My mom still brings up this almost everyday telling me I was over dramatic and ungrateful.
Later on in 8th grade I started dating someone that was really mentally abusive and often threatened sewer-slide if I tried to leave. I got more depressed and attempted sewer-slide for the first time. Soon after my first attempt police came to my house asking if I was considering sewer-slide still (I wasn’t). And I got lectured and grounded.
By 9th grade the abuse became physical, mental, and even sexual. I found out I was bisexual, my grades dropped, I attempted several times a month, I was in a horrible place and all while it was happening my parents did nothing to help me knowing what was happening and blaming me for everything. They went as far as cheering the guy on since they knew him and his family.
In 10th grade I had severe PTSD, anxiety, and depression. I didn’t want to be at home or anywhere. I was still with the guy. My parents had given me a dress code, would check my phone everyday, ground me, hit me, and verbally abuse me. It was getting to a point where I couldn’t handle it anymore and I just kept begging to be freed.
By 11th grade I’d gotten out of the relationships and everything seemed to be better...til quarantine happened. This is the most recent stuff. I was slapped and scratched till I bled over my phone. My mom went through my room and grounded me because “I hit her” although she actually pushed me to the floor and hit me. Then called me manipulative for telling my father she hit me and I never hit her. I almost came out to them but stopped when they told me if they ever had a gay child they would send them to conversion therapy. They began checking my phone and going into my room everyday. Scolding me for doing homework instead of cleaning. Then later grounding me for letting my grades drop to clean. Slut shamed me and gave me a dress code for my everyday life. They even grounded me for a whole two months after hitting me and threatening to take me to church to “fix my brain” for being liberal and not conservative.
Now it’s my senior year and I want to do Music therapy as my major. I want to go out of state with my boyfriend of almost a year and live my life the way I want to. I want to go to pride and practice my own religion and live my own life free of them. We are hispanic but they manage to be racist, sexist, homophobic, etc. They have spent years controlling who I talk to, what I wear, and everything. And when I don’t behave or I don’t do what they want me to when they want me to they beat me. I want to go away but my moms biggest rule is that it doesn’t matter if I am 50 or 30 or 100, whatever she says is law and I have to abide by it. If she says I can’t go out then I can’t go out no matter how old I am. I owe her respect even while she is degrading me. I asked to go out of state for college offering to pay for it on my own and she refuses to let me go because she wants me to stay at home till I graduate from college. She won’t even let me date till I graduate from college (I’m currently dating someone without her knowing). She wants to control every aspect of my life, she won’t even let me get a job unless it has to do with music.
The biggest problem here is I want to leave. I want to live my life how I want to live it but without my parents there to control me. But I also want to at least keep in touch with my sister and grandma who are genuinely interested terry great people. I’m not really sure how I could go about that without taking anyone to court or anything of that sort.
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2020.09.25 16:06 CovidMdBot 9/25/2020 In the last 24 hours there have been 559 new confirmed COVID-19 cases in Maryland. There has now been a total of 122,359 confirmed cases.

SUMMARY (9/25/2020)
YESTERDAY'S TESTING STATISTICS IN MARYLAND
Metric 24 HR Total Prev 7 Day Avg Today vs 7 Day Avg
Number of Tests 29,092 23,618 +23.2%
Number of Positive Tests 681 582 +17.0%
Percent Positive Tests 2.34% 2.57% -8.9%
State Reported 7-day Rolling Positive Testing Percent: 3%
Testing metrics are distinct from case metrics as an individual may be tested multiple times.
SUMMARY STATISTICS IN MARYLAND
Metric 24 HR Total Prev 7 Day Avg Today vs 7 Day Avg Total to Date
Number of confirmed cases 559 469 +19.3% 122,359
Number of confirmed deaths 7 7 +2.1% 3,772
Number of probable deaths 1 0 +Infinity% 145
Number of persons tested negative 10,346 9,137 +13.2% 1,450,125
Ever hospitalized 29 42 -30.2% 15,328
Released from isolation 15 15 0.0% 7,431
Total testing volume 29,092 23,617 +23.2% 2,494,019
CURRENT HOSPITALIZATION USAGE
Metric Total 24 HR Delta Prev 7 Day Avg Delta Delta vs 7 Day Avg
Currently hospitalized 344 -5 -1 +775.0%
Acute care 265 -3 0 +950.0%
Intensive care 79 -2 0 +600.0%
The Currently hospitalized metric appears to be the sum of the Acute care and Intensive care metrics.
Cases and Deaths Data Breakdown
CASES BY COUNTY
County Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
Allegany 460 1 22 0 0 0
Anne Arundel 9,873 61 234 0 12 0
Baltimore County 17,720 65 599 1 23 0
Baltimore City 15,431 57 468 2 18 0
Calvert 933 5 27 0 1 0
Caroline 640 0 6 0 0 0
Carroll 1,937 12 122 1 3 0
Cecil 1,038 4 34 1 1 0
Charles 2,745 8 99 1 2 0
Dorchester 587 5 10 0 0 0
Frederick 3,995 20 124 0 7 0
Garrett 72 0 1 0 0 0
Harford 2,986 23 72 0 4 0
Howard 5,013 16 117 0 6 0
Kent 300 0 22 0 2 0
Montgomery 22,185 107 802 1 40 0
Prince George's 28,995 108 802 3 23 0
Queen Anne's 652 2 25 0 1 0
Somerset 263 11 4 0 0 0
St. Mary's 1,274 12 57 0 0 0
Talbot 551 2 6 0 0 0
Washington 1,720 15 37 0 0 0
Wicomico 1,949 13 48 0 0 0
Worcester 1,040 12 25 0 1 0
Data not available 0 0 9 -3 1 1
CASES BY AGE & GENDER:
Demographic Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
0-9 4,532 27 0 0 0 0
10-19 10,212 72 2 0 0 0
20-29 23,055 117 23 0 1 0
30-39 22,163 99 47 0 6 0
40-49 19,617 87 122 1 3 0
50-59 17,864 80 309 0 16 0
60-69 11,962 45 621 1 13 0
70-79 7,145 23 940 2 28 1
80+ 5,809 9 1,706 3 78 0
Data not available 0 0 2 0 0 0
Female 64,657 302 1,847 3 76 1
Male 57,702 257 1,925 4 69 0
Sex Unknown 0 0 0 0 0 0
CASES BY RACE:
Race Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
African-American (NH) 38,869 150 1,547 4 55 0
White (NH) 30,474 196 1,597 4 71 0
Hispanic 26,621 94 437 1 12 0
Asian (NH) 2,326 21 140 1 6 0
Other (NH) 5,616 22 42 0 0 0
Data not available 18,453 76 9 -3 1 1
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MAP (9/25/2020)
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2020.09.24 19:52 RodarteAlejandro [116/120] - My experience taking the TOEFL for the first time

Hello, I have been lurking this subreddit for the past 3 weeks in order to prepare for the TOEFL iBT. My study plan originated here by mixing content from several posts. Grateful towards the guidance received, I decided to craft a write-up related to my studying/testing experience as a first-timer.

Background

Resources

Study Plan

Vocabulary

Week 1

Week 2

Note: Some of the practice tests from this YouTube channel come directly from the official ETS practice set volumes. If you will use them in the future, be sure to not select them (some of them come from TPOs so those should work just fine).

Week 3

Realizations

Reading

Listening

Speaking

Writing

D-day

Reading

Listening

Break time!

Speaking

Writing

Conclusion

A shout out to u/watchsmart as his TOEFL Resources webpage was of great help for Speaking/Writing.
Also, feel free to contact me if you need extra information. I will take advantage of my NEET status to open myself for questions related to the exam.
Cheers!
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2020.09.24 16:03 CovidMdBot 9/24/2020 In the last 24 hours there have been 503 new confirmed COVID-19 cases in Maryland. There has now been a total of 121,800 confirmed cases.

SUMMARY (9/24/2020)
YESTERDAY'S TESTING STATISTICS IN MARYLAND
Metric 24 HR Total Prev 7 Day Avg Today vs 7 Day Avg
Number of Tests 23,693 24,136 -1.8%
Number of Positive Tests 623 606 +2.9%
Percent Positive Tests 2.63% 2.61% +0.9%
State Reported 7-day Rolling Positive Testing Percent: 3%
Testing metrics are distinct from case metrics as an individual may be tested multiple times.
SUMMARY STATISTICS IN MARYLAND
Metric 24 HR Total Prev 7 Day Avg Today vs 7 Day Avg Total to Date
Number of confirmed cases 503 487 +3.3% 121,800
Number of confirmed deaths 9 6 +43.2% 3,765
Number of probable deaths -2 0 -566.7% 144
Number of persons tested negative 8,971 9,391 -4.5% 1,439,779
Ever hospitalized 31 44 -29.8% 15,299
Released from isolation 20 16 +27.3% 7,416
Total testing volume 23,702 24,137 -1.8% 2,464,927
CURRENT HOSPITALIZATION USAGE
Metric Total 24 HR Delta Prev 7 Day Avg Delta Delta vs 7 Day Avg
Currently hospitalized 349 +17 -2 -893.3%
Acute care 268 +15 -1 -1412.5%
Intensive care 81 +2 -1 -300.0%
The Currently hospitalized metric appears to be the sum of the Acute care and Intensive care metrics.
Cases and Deaths Data Breakdown
CASES BY COUNTY
County Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
Allegany 459 5 22 0 0 0
Anne Arundel 9,812 53 234 1 12 0
Baltimore County 17,655 76 598 1 23 -1
Baltimore City 15,374 45 466 1 18 0
Calvert 928 8 27 0 1 0
Caroline 640 2 6 1 0 0
Carroll 1,925 5 121 0 3 -1
Cecil 1,034 9 33 1 1 0
Charles 2,737 12 98 1 2 0
Dorchester 582 4 10 0 0 0
Frederick 3,975 17 124 0 7 0
Garrett 72 0 1 0 0 0
Harford 2,963 18 72 0 4 0
Howard 4,997 14 117 0 6 0
Kent 300 2 22 0 2 0
Montgomery 22,078 76 801 0 40 0
Prince George's 28,887 103 799 1 23 0
Queen Anne's 650 5 25 0 1 0
Somerset 252 1 4 0 0 0
St. Mary's 1,262 3 57 0 0 0
Talbot 549 6 6 0 0 0
Washington 1,705 14 37 0 0 0
Wicomico 1,936 17 48 0 0 0
Worcester 1,028 8 25 0 1 0
Data not available 0 0 12 2 0 0
CASES BY AGE & GENDER:
Demographic Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
0-9 4,505 18 0 0 0 0
10-19 10,140 65 2 0 0 0
20-29 22,938 115 23 0 1 0
30-39 22,064 81 47 0 6 0
40-49 19,530 70 121 0 3 0
50-59 17,784 80 309 0 16 0
60-69 11,917 46 620 3 13 -1
70-79 7,122 19 938 0 27 0
80+ 5,800 9 1,703 6 78 -1
Data not available 0 0 2 0 0 0
Female 64,355 255 1,844 5 75 0
Male 57,445 248 1,921 4 69 -2
Sex Unknown 0 0 0 0 0 0
CASES BY RACE:
Race Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
African-American (NH) 38,719 129 1,543 1 55 0
White (NH) 30,278 191 1,593 4 71 -2
Hispanic 26,527 69 436 0 12 0
Asian (NH) 2,305 10 139 0 6 0
Other (NH) 5,594 20 42 2 0 0
Data not available 18,377 84 12 2 0 0
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MAP (9/24/2020)
TOTAL MD CASES:
TOTAL MD CASES (9/24/2020)
CURRENT MD HOSP. & TOTAL DEATHS:
CURRENT MD HOSP. & TOTAL DEATHS (9/24/2020)
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2020.09.24 15:55 Anthony12125 I (37m) have been having an on and off emotional affair with her (f24) for almost 5 years

I have been having an off and on emotional affair for 5 years. I (m37) met her (f24) when I was travel working in Minnesota. I'm from Orlando Florida and Hispanic she's a country girl from Minnesota. I saw her at her job most mornings for about 6 months and seemed to have good conversation so I asked for her number. I had to leave the state that same day for work. We started texting each other a lot. being in different states though and her being young I was being unrealistic and things just fizzled out.
The next summer I'm in Minnesota and I text her, we started messaging each other again quite a bit. I asked her out but she seemed hesitant, I asked her out a few times actually and every time she would change the subject or say she was busy. then one day she was by herself at a lake and asked me to come see her. We talked until 4:00 in the morning. The next day she calls me and asked me to leave work to go see her and I told her that I couldn't. she seemed upset and I noticed later that night that she wasn't in the mood to message me like usual. over the next few days I'd realized she was distancing herself. I was crushed.
So, this is where the emotional affair (ea) starts...6 months later on her b'day I messaged her wishing her well. I noticed on her Facebook that she was in a relationship but she didn't really bring it up. We start messaging each other and things get really uhm.... romantic? Idk we start planning our lives together and stuff. things go on like this for about a month and then one day I get a phone call at 6:00 a.m. from her boyfriend using her phone telling me to stop messaging her. She thought that I never wanted to talk to her again but for some reason I was okay with it, crazy I know. she said they were having problems so I guess I was hoping maybe I could start an LDR with her if she was single soon. at this time I'm living 6 hours away so it's not too bad. she breaks up with him but then instead of starting something with me she starts going out meets somebody else and starts a relationship with them. I was crushed reddit, idk why but I have a thing for her and strong feelings. I blocked her and all social media and blocked her number from my phone. all the messaging and feelings were driving me crazy.
so 9 months go by.... I had just installed Snapchat and I got a friend request from her. it had been a while and I thought I was over it so I accepted it and I thought we could just catch up. that turned out to not be the case. We started our ea again. all of a sudden she starts having serious problems in her relationship and they end up splitting up. at this time I'm living in Florida and really far away so I couldn't just go visit her. We kept on conversing and about a month later I find out that she's dating somebody new after we had talked about getting together. I was devastated... again.
I blocked her from all my social media again and my phone. We didn't talk for 2 1/2 years. she would occasionally send me messages through her friend's Facebook or through email and I wouldn't respond to any of it. Finally I felt I could talk to her again so I unblocked her. she started sending me messages asking me to catch up but I didn't respond for some reason. then one day I told her to call me and she did. We talked for 5 hours on the phone. by the end of the phone call the ea had started again.
she said she was having problems with her boyfriend she has been dating for almost a year. as the weeks go by it's pretty clear that this relationship is almost over. I told her that if she was single I would be willing to move to Minnesota so that we can be close. she said it sounded great. finally she breaks up with her boyfriend. from our conversations I thought that everything was going great but I noticed that she started acting different right around the time she broke up with her boyfriend. 5 days later she was in a new relationship... I was devastated again for the fourth time....
so I guess I'm here because idk what to do. my mind is telling me to move on and never talk to her again. but my heart is telling me to go through with my plan and move to Minnesota. I also don't think that we can leave each other alone... We are addicted to the situation or something.
so a few things that I need to put out there, this relationship has never been physical only emotional, we are both extremely attracted to each other physically and emotionally, We hardly ever see each other and when we do it feels pretty good. then she spends the next week thinking of all the reasons why I am not a good fit for her until she reasons her way out of liking me and since I'm usually so far away I have no way to reinforce my presence. idk if she wants to be friends? The thing is that if we aren't talking about "us" then there really isn't anything we talk about. also I don't know if I can be her friend if I have such strong feelings for her. I have a huge amount of anxiety every time our EA is active I lose sleep, I don't eat, then I get too attached to the idea of her. every time I find out that she's moved on with somebody else I go through heartbreak and an incredible amount of anxiety.
I could move on, I'm fit and attractive and can find a mate but I only want her. my friend tells me that I'm crazy and I should just forget about her but I can't. I haven't blocked her this time so I occasionally still chat with her but it's different now, and it's causing me anxiety.
I know most of you are going to tell me to forget about her and move on but I feel like I need to go to Minnesota. I feel like now that she's older and if I was around we could see if this is something real. idc that she's with somebody... I never have 😔. I also feel like she will never give us a chance because she would have by now or maybe the distance kept anything from happening. She's really wanting to have a family and get married. I think that my age, race, and culture kinda isn't what she's looking for.
Believe me when I tell you I'm aware that she's been using me as an emotional crutch to get out of her relationships. So.... idk it just always feels right ugh. I get so swept up in the feelings and the emotions that I don't care about the pain that comes later. I guess I'm looking for some insight from you guys here. I only talked to one other person about this and I need to hear more opinions about this situation. I know this whole situation isn't healthy because of how I react to it. I never have anxiety or depression or anything like that except when the EA is active. I have to admit that when everything is going on I get a little uhmmm desperate? Attached? I'm definitely not myself.
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2020.09.24 06:13 TheMidnightArchive The Abduction and Murder of Amber Hagerman

A Trip to The Grocery Store
The late winter in Texas is a mild time usually, with steady wind and a biting chill in the air. The season is one of change, the life force of the previous year is fading away to succumb to a newness imbued by the heat of the Spring and Summer. January 12th, 1996 in Arlington, Texas was no different, the sun was shining, the wind was steady, and the temperature hovered around the mid-sixties. On this day Donna Whitson and her two children, nine-year-old Amber and five-year-old Ricky Hagerman were in Arlington visiting Donna’s parents, Glenda and Jimmie Whitson. The family arrived at their destination around 3pm and upon disembarking Donna’s car the kids asked to ride their bikes, the ones that Donna had her parents keep at their home for them. Donna, without a second thought, assented to the request with the limitation that the kids stay within a block of their grandparents’ home. She wanted them to be safe.
Once astride their bicycles and away from nagging adults, Amber disregarded the boundary set upon her and her brother. Amber led Ricky to the local neighborhood play spot, a shuttered Winn-Dixie grocery store and after approximately 15 minutes of riding around the parking lot and loading dock the younger Ricky was ready to turn back home, whether out of fear of being beyond their boundary or being tired is unknown. What is known is that Amber had elected to stay and ride her bike around the parking lot of the store on her own for a while longer, that Ricky went home alone, and that in the intervening time something horrible would happen to Amber that would shape substance and conscious of the her family forever.
On January 12th, Mr. Jim Kevil was sitting on his back porch looking out over his yard and fence, a view that happened to encompass the next-door Winn-Dixie store’s loading dock and the street it was on. Around 3:15 pm Mr. Kevil saw a lone young girl riding a colorful bike around the grocery store loading dock when a dark colored truck quickly pulled into the parking lot. Jim Kevil would later state that the driver of the truck was either white or Hispanic and between the ages of 25-40, this unknown subject grabbed Amber, who let out a scream and began kicking her abductor. The driver then put Amber in his vehicle before he sped off West bound down Abrams Road. Not just a passive witness, Mr. Kevil called 911 to report the incident to the police and to try to aid in the capture of the kidnapper and the return of the little girl. This would be the last time that anyone would see Amber Hagerman alive.
After arriving home alone five-year-old Ricky Hagerman was sent by his family back to the Winn-Dixie to retrieve his sister. Turning his bike around Ricky did as requested, only to return to an empty parking lot. Only a brief eight minutes had elapsed since he had last seen his sister, but it was too late; Amber was gone. Ricky once again arrived alone to the Whitson home prompting Grandfather Jimmie Whitson to race to the store in his car to search for Amber himself. Jimmie would arrive at the store at about the same time as an Arlington police officer, summoned by Jim Kevil’s 911 call did; the only remnant of Amber was her abandoned bicycle.
Law Enforcement, including the local police and the FBI (involved as a result of the pleas of Amber’s distraught family), coupled with a mass of volunteers began a wide net search for the missing girl, but came up empty. Amber had vanished.
Discovery
January 16, 1996 is a day that Amber’s family will never forget. Four days after she had been taken by an unidentified male from that Winn-Dixie parking lot, Amber Hagerman’s body was discovered in the early morning hours by an anonymous man walking his dog near the Forest Hills Apartment Complex in Arlington, Texas. Her body was found face down in a creek approximately 4 miles from her abduction site. Prior to this, apartment maintenance workers had been in that area and seen nothing, suggesting that the remains were either placed there after the workers had left or moved down stream by a torrential rainstorm that had just occurred. Amber’s family was informed shortly after the discovery, shocked they initially refused to believe the news with her father quoted in a New York Times article written at the time as saying, “She’s still alive” to the reporters covering the case and camped outside the Whitson home.
Amber was discovered wearing nothing but a single sock and the medical examiner would later confirm investigators suspicions, there was evidence of sexual assault and physical abuse, the cause of death: lacerations to the neck and throat. Additionally, the medical examiner stated that there was evidence that Amber had been kept alive for at least two days after her abduction before she was murdered, and her body disposed of.
Investigation Still Ongoing
More than 20 years later the investigation is still technically ongoing, to date the Arlington Police Department (APD) has not formally announced that they have any suspects or persons of interest. APD Detective Ben Lopez stated in a recent interview that the APD still receives tips regularly regarding the case and the department thoroughly investigates each one like it could be the piece of the puzzle that finally gives Amber’s family closure and justice.
An explanation of this unsolved murder most likely lies in the fact that Amber’s body was left in running water for an indeterminate amount of time, coupled with the storm that raised the creek level and most likely moved the body from the dump site, forensic evidence would have been all but erased and any physical evidence diluted or washed away. Not helping the investigation is the fact that there is only one witness to the crime: Jim Kevil was the sole person to come forward with information regarding the abduction, despite the fact that Amber was taken in broad daylight on a residential street. To date no one else has come forward with evidence or statements to aid in the apprehension of the unknown subject. Some reports assert that this is a result of the immigrant community in the area and the traditional apprehension of this population in talking to law enforcement thought that remains unsubstantiated speculation.
It is believed that Amber’s abductor and murderer was a stranger to her given that he took her by force and did not attempt to talk her into his vehicle. With this, I agree with the official narrative. Where I differ is on why Amber was taken. Based on the speed at which the abduction occurred it suggests to me that Amber may have been watched for some time before being taken. As stated previously Amber Hagerman was abducted in a window of approximately 8 minutes from when her brother left and then returned to bring her home. The official narrative is that this was an act of extreme opportunity when the perpetrator just happened to be driving by when he saw her alone. This would suggest that there was an event that triggered sporadic actions in the perpetrator, to quote a popular television show there must have been a stressor that induced this action.
Regardless of the why, the fact of the matter is that Amber Hagerman’s killer is still at large. He has gone unpunished for his heinous actions against this innocent little girl and by extension her family. As a result of chance and a fluke of nature no evidence or additional witnesses remain of what happened on that fateful winter day. Amber’s killer is nameless, and her family is left with no closure or answers, only questions and heartache.
Possible Suspects
Richard Lee Franks
Richard Lee Franks was charged on March 16, 2000 with the aggravated kidnapping of Opal Jo Jennings from Saginaw, a town a few miles north of Fort Worth. On March 26, 1999 6-year-old Opal was playing with her 3-year-old cousin in a vacant lot next to her grandparent’s house when Franks pulled up to the lot in his black Mercury Cougar. He then exited his vehicle and approached the kids feigning conversation with them. When Franks was close enough, he plucked Opal off the ground, punched her in the chest and put her in his car. What happened next was not unlike in Amber’s case, a large-scale search was launched for Opal led by her family and the local police department, it would not be for five years that Opal would be found. Her remains were discovered in a wooded area while two individuals were riding their horses along a remote trail. As a result of the state in which the remains were found, there was little physical or forensic evidence. What was clear was that the cause of death was most likely the result of a blow to the head. Franks would later be charged with Opal’s kidnapping but not her murder as there was no evidence to prove beyond the shadow of a doubt that Franks had indeed murdered her. In fact, he claimed that he had driven her to a local store to get a drink and left her there. What lends credence to Franks as a potential suspect is the similarity between Amber and Opal, and the way that they were taken. Both were seemingly impulse driven abductions based on the speed in which they occurred.
This link between Opal and Amber was not solely based on the research of internet sleuths. Mark Simpson, an investigating officer in the Hagerman case in an address to the National Children’s Advocacy Center’s 26 Annual National Symposium on Child Abuse to the fact that Franks had prior criminal history involving children, all young, brown haired girls and that Opal’s kidnaping occurred in the same county as Amber’s. Based on proximity, prior history, and similarity in method at the very least one could expect that APD would investigate Franks as a person of interest however, that has not been the case.
Terapon Adhahn
Born in Bangkok, Thailand. Terapon immigrated to the United States as a child when his mother married a U.S. serviceman and he returned to the United States. As he grew older Terapon would become a Buddhist monk as well as follow in his stepfather’s footsteps and join the U.S. Army. Adhahn has been connected to (either directly as the known perpetrator or suspected) multiple offenses, both resolved or unresolved, against children throughout Washington State including rape, kidnapping, and murder. He has also been questioned in connection the Amber Hagerman case by APD though has not been named as an official suspect.
In 1990 Adhahn was charged with sexual assault against a 16-year-old relative. This charge would result in him being forced to register as a sex offender and enter rehabilitation but as a first offense was not enough for him to be deported.
On May 31, 2000 an 11-year-old unnamed (for reasons of privacy) Spanaway County Girl was abducted on her way to school. She was bound and taken to a secluded training field close to the Fort Lewis Military Base where she was repeatedly assaulted over the course of an hour. After the assaults Adhahn left her bound on a road nearby where she would be discovered walking, still bound with her eyes taped over, by a Tacoma City Police Officer.
In December 2005, Adre’anna Jackson would also be abducted on her way to school, she disappeared from Lakewood in Pierce County, Washington and was never seen again. Over a year later, April 2006, skeletal remains were found in a field near her Tillicum neighborhood. Investigators showed pictures of Adhahn to residents who identified him as a known handyman who frequently worked in the area. He is regarded as a person of interest in this case.
On July 4, 2007 Zina Linnik had been watching a firework display with her siblings on a hilltop near her home when her father, Mikhail Linnik, on his back porch presumably also watching the display, heard his daughter cry out. When he arrived at the spot that Zina was taken all that was left was a single shoe she had been wearing, Mikhail also saw a gray Chevy Astro van speeding away and he was able to partially make out the license plate. Four days alter Terapon Adhahn was arrested for the kidnapping of Zina. However, this speedy apprehension was not enough, on condition of prosecution not seeking the death penalty, Adhahn led investigators to the remains of young Zina Linnik. She had been strangled with a zip tie though Adhahn would claim that her death had been an accident.
Additionally, while living in the Tacoma area, Adhahn was responsible for the care of an unnamed (again for the sake of privacy) 12-year-old girl. Her mother allowed the girl to live with Adhahn since she was unable to provide for her daughter, Adhahn only a “friend of her mother’s boyfriend”. Over the course of the next three years Adhahn would subject the young girl to repeated sexual assault, stopping only when she was able to run away after being assaulted at gun point.
Why Terapon Adhahn? It has been reported that, coupled with his extensive and horrendous history with children, Terapon lived for a time with his aunt in the Fort Worth area around 1996. During the investigation, law enforcement noticed striking similarities in the method of kidnapping, assault, and victims in the Adhahn case and with a few officers having been trained in Texas for the Amber Alert System, were familiar with the Hagerman case. Additionally, he used a similar vehicle in the Fort Lewis incident as was seen in Amber’s abduction. Terapon has been question regarding Amber's abduction and murder though not formally named as a suspect or even a person of interest.
Similar Cases
Heidi Seeman – San Antonio, Texas
On August 4, 1990 11-year-old Heidi Seeman was walking home from a sleep-over at a friend house the previous night. Her unnamed friend walked Heidi a part of the way home, to a midpoint between their houses at the intersection of Stahl road and Willow Run Street. Approaching the intersection Heidi’s friend as well as neighbors in the area reported seeing a red car with dark tinted windows pass by the girls slowly, and the driver watching them intently. Thinking nothing much of it, the girls parted ways and Heidi was never seen again. On August 25th, 1990 her remains were found in Hays County, Texas. No additional details were released regarding her death aside from the fact that a medical examiner ruled her death as a result of homicide.
Erica Botello – San Antonio, Texas
Closer in circumstance to Amber Hagerman, 7-year-old Erica Botello was taken on August 23, 1990 from the playground (or road next to depending on source) near her apartment complex. She was not unsupervised or alone the entire time she was playing. Erica was with her Father however he stepped inside for a brief time. When he went back outside, Erica was gone. Her remains would be found on August 25, 1990 in a storm drain about a mile from her home and abduction site. There is little information regarding Erica’s as she was and is eclipsed by the case of Heidi Seeman, a young white girl just a few years older than Erica, a girl of Hispanic dissent, from a wealthier side of San Antonio to the working class area that the Botello family lived in. Any information found on Erica is usually limited to brief sentences and always in tandem to Heidi.
Legacy and Aftermath
What happened to Amber Hagerman is not a mystery, it is known. She was taken from her family, held and assaulted over the course of two days, killed, and her body was disposed of in a creek not far from her abduction site. Her killer did all of these things without leaving any evidence, and slipped away. What isn't known is who did those things to her? Was it someone she knew? Had that person been watching her? Was this all really the result of chance and opportunity? One can hope that these questions, and more, will be answered one day but with each passing day the possibility that they never will be becomes all the more real.
It has been 24 years since Amber Hagerman was abducted and murdered yet her legacy lives on.
Amber’s abduction and murder was the impetus for the creation for the AMBER Alert System. This is a coordinated effort between law enforcement, radio, television, and cellphone broadcast systems to alert the general public in the region of an abduction to the incident and any information that law enforcement has on the abduction such as their physical description as well as the description of the vehicle they were last seen with. This system has resulted in the safe return of almost 1,000 children in the United States since its inception as a regional program in 1997, then national (and international) in 2000 however it is also under scrutiny for saving so few and being so annoying as an alert results in an alarm blaring through the device that receives it, and for saving so few. Critics question whether it saving just one life is worth it, is saving so few worth it?
I say yes.

Sources
Amber Hagerman
Arlington police mum about whether DNA evidence exist in unsolved Amber Hagerman case
CRIME HUNTER: Sleep interrupted? Think about Amber Hagerman Toronto Sun
[APD "Missing" flyer for Amber Haggerman, 1996] - Side 1 of 1 - The Portal to Texas History
AA28.pdf
Gale In Context: Biography - Document - Body of Kidnapped Texas Girl Is Found
Body of Girl Who Was Dragged Screaming Off Bicycle Is Found - Los Angeles Times
How Were Amber Alerts Created? The Amber Hagerman Cold Case - A&E
Child abuse symposium speaker tells of similar abduction/murder cases with different endings - al.com
Richard Lee Franks
Medical examiner: Remains are those of missing girl - Plainview Herald
Richard Lee Franks Texas Prison Inmates The Texas Tribune
FRANKS v. STATE FindLaw
Family prepares to bury girl who was abducted five years ago - Midland Reporter-Telegram
FBI, Texas Rangers investigating death of 6-year-old girl in Saginaw Fort Worth Star-Telegram
Terapon Adhahn
Adhahn pleads guilty to murder of Tacoma girl, 12 The Seattle Times
Killer of Tacoma child reveals motive in papers The Seattle Times
Terapon Adhahn pleads guilty to rape, murder of Zina Linnik HeraldNet.com
Child abduction-rape investigation widens - seattlepi.com
Heidi Seeman and Erica Botello
August marks 30 years since disappearances of Heidi Seeman, Erica Botello
1990 kidnapping, murder of two San Antonio girls still unsolved
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2020.09.24 06:08 TheMidnightArchive The Abduction and Murder of Amber Hagerman

The Abduction and Murder of Amber Hagerman
A Trip to The Grocery Store
The late winter in Texas is a mild time usually, with steady wind and a biting chill in the air. The season is one of change, the life force of the previous year is fading away to succumb to a newness imbued by the heat of the Spring and Summer. January 12th, 1996 in Arlington, Texas was no different, the sun was shining, the wind was steady, and the temperature hovered around the mid-sixties. On this day Donna Whitson and her two children, nine-year-old Amber and five-year-old Ricky Hagerman were in Arlington visiting Donna’s parents, Glenda and Jimmie Whitson. The family arrived at their destination around 3pm and upon disembarking Donna’s car the kids asked to ride their bikes, the ones that Donna had her parents keep at their home for them. Donna, without a second thought, assented to the request with the limitation that the kids stay within a block of their grandparents’ home. She wanted them to be safe.
Once astride their bicycles and away from nagging adults, Amber disregarded the boundary set upon her and her brother. Amber led Ricky to the local neighborhood play spot, a shuttered Winn-Dixie grocery store and after approximately 15 minutes of riding around the parking lot and loading dock the younger Ricky was ready to turn back home, whether out of fear of being beyond their boundary or being tired is unknown. What is known is that Amber had elected to stay and ride her bike around the parking lot of the store on her own for a while longer, that Ricky went home alone, and that in the intervening time something horrible would happen to Amber that would shape substance and conscious of the her family forever.
On January 12th, Mr. Jim Kevil was sitting on his back porch looking out over his yard and fence, a view that happened to encompass the next-door Winn-Dixie store’s loading dock and the street it was on. Around 3:15 pm Mr. Kevil saw a lone young girl riding a colorful bike around the grocery store loading dock when a dark colored truck quickly pulled into the parking lot. Jim Kevil would later state that the driver of the truck was either white or Hispanic and between the ages of 25-40, this unknown subject grabbed Amber, who let out a scream and began kicking her abductor. The driver then put Amber in his vehicle before he sped off West bound down Abrams Road. Not just a passive witness, Mr. Kevil called 911 to report the incident to the police and to try to aid in the capture of the kidnapper and the return of the little girl. This would be the last time that anyone would see Amber Hagerman alive.
After arriving home alone five-year-old Ricky Hagerman was sent by his family back to the Winn-Dixie to retrieve his sister. Turning his bike around Ricky did as requested, only to return to an empty parking lot. Only a brief eight minutes had elapsed since he had last seen his sister, but it was too late; Amber was gone. Ricky once again arrived alone to the Whitson home prompting Grandfather Jimmie Whitson to race to the store in his car to search for Amber himself. Jimmie would arrive at the store at about the same time as an Arlington police officer, summoned by Jim Kevil’s 911 call did; the only remnant of Amber was her abandoned bicycle.
Law Enforcement, including the local police and the FBI (involved as a result of the pleas of Amber’s distraught family), coupled with a mass of volunteers began a wide net search for the missing girl, but came up empty. Amber had vanished.
Discovery
January 16, 1996 is a day that Amber’s family will never forget. Four days after she had been taken by an unidentified male from that Winn-Dixie parking lot, Amber Hagerman’s body was discovered in the early morning hours by an anonymous man walking his dog near the Forest Hills Apartment Complex in Arlington, Texas. Her body was found face down in a creek approximately 4 miles from her abduction site. Prior to this, apartment maintenance workers had been in that area and seen nothing, suggesting that the remains were either placed there after the workers had left or moved down stream by a torrential rainstorm that had just occurred. Amber’s family was informed shortly after the discovery, shocked they initially refused to believe the news with her father quoted in a New York Times article written at the time as saying, “She’s still alive” to the reporters covering the case and camped outside the Whitson home.
Amber was discovered wearing nothing but a single sock and the medical examiner would later confirm investigators suspicions, there was evidence of sexual assault and physical abuse, the cause of death: lacerations to the neck and throat. Additionally, the medical examiner stated that there was evidence that Amber had been kept alive for at least two days after her abduction before she was murdered, and her body disposed of.
Investigation Still Ongoing
More than 20 years later the investigation is still technically ongoing, to date the Arlington Police Department (APD) has not formally announced that they have any suspects or persons of interest. APD Detective Ben Lopez stated in a recent interview that the APD still receives tips regularly regarding the case and the department thoroughly investigates each one like it could be the piece of the puzzle that finally gives Amber’s family closure and justice.
An explanation of this unsolved murder most likely lies in the fact that Amber’s body was left in running water for an indeterminate amount of time, coupled with the storm that raised the creek level and most likely moved the body from the dump site, forensic evidence would have been all but erased and any physical evidence diluted or washed away. Not helping the investigation is the fact that there is only one witness to the crime: Jim Kevil was the sole person to come forward with information regarding the abduction, despite the fact that Amber was taken in broad daylight on a residential street. To date no one else has come forward with evidence or statements to aid in the apprehension of the unknown subject. Some reports assert that this is a result of the immigrant community in the area and the traditional apprehension of this population in talking to law enforcement thought that remains unsubstantiated speculation.
It is believed that Amber’s abductor and murderer was a stranger to her given that he took her by force and did not attempt to talk her into his vehicle. With this, I agree with the official narrative. Where I differ is on why Amber was taken. Based on the speed at which the abduction occurred it suggests to me that Amber may have been watched for some time before being taken. As stated previously Amber Hagerman was abducted in a window of approximately 8 minutes from when her brother left and then returned to bring her home. The official narrative is that this was an act of extreme opportunity when the perpetrator just happened to be driving by when he saw her alone. This would suggest that there was an event that triggered sporadic actions in the perpetrator, to quote a popular television show there must have been a stressor that induced this action.
Regardless of the why, the fact of the matter is that Amber Hagerman’s killer is still at large. He has gone unpunished for his heinous actions against this innocent little girl and by extension her family. As a result of chance and a fluke of nature no evidence or additional witnesses remain of what happened on that fateful winter day. Amber’s killer is nameless, and her family is left with no closure or answers, only questions and heartache.
Possible Suspects
Richard Lee Franks
Richard Lee Franks was charged on March 16, 2000 with the aggravated kidnapping of Opal Jo Jennings from Saginaw, a town a few miles north of Fort Worth. On March 26, 1999 6-year-old Opal was playing with her 3-year-old cousin in a vacant lot next to her grandparent’s house when Franks pulled up to the lot in his black Mercury Cougar. He then exited his vehicle and approached the kids feigning conversation with them. When Franks was close enough, he plucked Opal off the ground, punched her in the chest and put her in his car. What happened next was not unlike in Amber’s case, a large-scale search was launched for Opal led by her family and the local police department, it would not be for five years that Opal would be found. Her remains were discovered in a wooded area while two individuals were riding their horses along a remote trail. As a result of the state in which the remains were found, there was little physical or forensic evidence. What was clear was that the cause of death was most likely the result of a blow to the head. Franks would later be charged with Opal’s kidnapping but not her murder as there was no evidence to prove beyond the shadow of a doubt that Franks had indeed murdered her. In fact, he claimed that he had driven her to a local store to get a drink and left her there. What lends credence to Franks as a potential suspect is the similarity between Amber and Opal, and the way that they were taken. Both were seemingly impulse driven abductions based on the speed in which they occurred.
This link between Opal and Amber was not solely based on the research of internet sleuths. Mark Simpson, an investigating officer in the Hagerman case in an address to the National Children’s Advocacy Center’s 26 Annual National Symposium on Child Abuse to the fact that Franks had prior criminal history involving children, all young, brown haired girls and that Opal’s kidnaping occurred in the same county as Amber’s. Based on proximity, prior history, and similarity in method at the very least one could expect that APD would investigate Franks as a person of interest however, that has not been the case.
Terapon Adhahn
Born in Bangkok, Thailand. Terapon immigrated to the United States as a child when his mother married a U.S. serviceman and he returned to the United States. As he grew older Terapon would become a Buddhist monk as well as follow in his stepfather’s footsteps and join the U.S. Army. Adhahn has been connected to (either directly as the known perpetrator or suspected) multiple offenses, both resolved or unresolved, against children throughout Washington State including rape, kidnapping, and murder. He has also been questioned in connection the Amber Hagerman case by APD though has not been named as an official suspect.
In 1990 Adhahn was charged with sexual assault against a 16-year-old relative. This charge would result in him being forced to register as a sex offender and enter rehabilitation but as a first offense was not enough for him to be deported.
On May 31, 2000 an 11-year-old unnamed (for reasons of privacy) Spanaway County Girl was abducted on her way to school. She was bound and taken to a secluded training field close to the Fort Lewis Military Base where she was repeatedly assaulted over the course of an hour. After the assaults Adhahn left her bound on a road nearby where she would be discovered walking, still bound with her eyes taped over, by a Tacoma City Police Officer.
In December 2005, Adre’anna Jackson would also be abducted on her way to school, she disappeared from Lakewood in Pierce County, Washington and was never seen again. Over a year later, April 2006, skeletal remains were found in a field near her Tillicum neighborhood. Investigators showed pictures of Adhahn to residents who identified him as a known handyman who frequently worked in the area. He is regarded as a person of interest in this case.
On July 4, 2007 Zina Linnik had been watching a firework display with her siblings on a hilltop near her home when her father, Mikhail Linnik, on his back porch presumably also watching the display, heard his daughter cry out. When he arrived at the spot that Zina was taken all that was left was a single shoe she had been wearing, Mikhail also saw a gray Chevy Astro van speeding away and he was able to partially make out the license plate. Four days alter Terapon Adhahn was arrested for the kidnapping of Zina. However, this speedy apprehension was not enough, on condition of prosecution not seeking the death penalty, Adhahn led investigators to the remains of young Zina Linnik. She had been strangled with a zip tie though Adhahn would claim that her death had been an accident.
Additionally, while living in the Tacoma area, Adhahn was responsible for the care of an unnamed (again for the sake of privacy) 12-year-old girl. Her mother allowed the girl to live with Adhahn since she was unable to provide for her daughter, Adhahn only a “friend of her mother’s boyfriend”. Over the course of the next three years Adhahn would subject the young girl to repeated sexual assault, stopping only when she was able to run away after being assaulted at gun point.
Why Terapon Adhahn? It has been reported that, coupled with his extensive and horrendous history with children, Terapon lived for a time with his aunt in the Fort Worth area around 1996. During the investigation, law enforcement noticed striking similarities in the method of kidnapping, assault, and victims in the Adhahn case and with a few officers having been trained in Texas for the Amber Alert System, were familiar with the Hagerman case. Additionally, he used a similar vehicle in the Fort Lewis incident as was seen in Amber’s abduction. Terapon has been question regarding Amber's abduction and murder though not formally named as a suspect or even a person of interest.
Similar Cases
Heidi Seeman – San Antonio, Texas
On August 4, 1990 11-year-old Heidi Seeman was walking home from a sleep-over at a friend house the previous night. Her unnamed friend walked Heidi a part of the way home, to a midpoint between their houses at the intersection of Stahl road and Willow Run Street. Approaching the intersection Heidi’s friend as well as neighbors in the area reported seeing a red car with dark tinted windows pass by the girls slowly, and the driver watching them intently. Thinking nothing much of it, the girls parted ways and Heidi was never seen again. On August 25th, 1990 her remains were found in Hays County, Texas. No additional details were released regarding her death aside from the fact that a medical examiner ruled her death as a result of homicide.
Erica Botello – San Antonio, Texas
Closer in circumstance to Amber Hagerman, 7-year-old Erica Botello was taken on August 23, 1990 from the playground (or road next to depending on source) near her apartment complex. She was not unsupervised or alone the entire time she was playing. Erica was with her Father however he stepped inside for a brief time. When he went back outside, Erica was gone. Her remains would be found on August 25, 1990 in a storm drain about a mile from her home and abduction site. There is little information regarding Erica’s as she was and is eclipsed by the case of Heidi Seeman, a young white girl just a few years older than Erica, a girl of Hispanic dissent, from a wealthier side of San Antonio to the working class area that the Botello family lived in. Any information found on Erica is usually limited to brief sentences and always in tandem to Heidi.
Legacy and Aftermath
What happened to Amber Hagerman is not a mystery, it is known. She was taken from her family, held and assaulted over the course of two days, killed, and her body was disposed of in a creek not far from her abduction site. Her killer did all of these things without leaving any evidence, and slipped away. What isn't known is who did those things to her? Was it someone she knew? Had that person been watching her? Was this all really the result of chance and opportunity? One can hope that these questions, and more, will be answered one day but with each passing day the possibility that they never will be becomes all the more real.
It has been 24 years since Amber Hagerman was abducted and murdered yet her legacy lives on.
Amber’s abduction and murder was the impetus for the creation for the AMBER Alert System. This is a coordinated effort between law enforcement, radio, television, and cellphone broadcast systems to alert the general public in the region of an abduction to the incident and any information that law enforcement has on the abduction such as their physical description as well as the description of the vehicle they were last seen with. This system has resulted in the safe return of almost 1,000 children in the United States since its inception as a regional program in 1997, then national (and international) in 2000 however it is also under scrutiny for saving so few and being so annoying as an alert results in an alarm blaring through the device that receives it, and for saving so few. Critics question whether it saving just one life is worth it, is saving so few worth it?
I say yes.

Sources
Amber Hagerman
Arlington police mum about whether DNA evidence exist in unsolved Amber Hagerman case
CRIME HUNTER: Sleep interrupted? Think about Amber Hagerman Toronto Sun
[APD "Missing" flyer for Amber Haggerman, 1996] - Side 1 of 1 - The Portal to Texas History
AA28.pdf
Gale In Context: Biography - Document - Body of Kidnapped Texas Girl Is Found
Body of Girl Who Was Dragged Screaming Off Bicycle Is Found - Los Angeles Times
How Were Amber Alerts Created? The Amber Hagerman Cold Case - A&E
Child abuse symposium speaker tells of similar abduction/murder cases with different endings - al.com
Richard Lee Franks
Medical examiner: Remains are those of missing girl - Plainview Herald
Richard Lee Franks Texas Prison Inmates The Texas Tribune
FRANKS v. STATE FindLaw
Family prepares to bury girl who was abducted five years ago - Midland Reporter-Telegram
FBI, Texas Rangers investigating death of 6-year-old girl in Saginaw Fort Worth Star-Telegram
Terapon Adhahn
Adhahn pleads guilty to murder of Tacoma girl, 12 The Seattle Times
Killer of Tacoma child reveals motive in papers The Seattle Times
Terapon Adhahn pleads guilty to rape, murder of Zina Linnik HeraldNet.com
Child abduction-rape investigation widens - seattlepi.com
Heidi Seeman and Erica Botello
August marks 30 years since disappearances of Heidi Seeman, Erica Botello
1990 kidnapping, murder of two San Antonio girls still unsolved
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2020.09.24 04:00 lowdown_scoundrel 29 [M4F] Chicago/Illinois/USA — I’m so ronery

Ahoy
So I’m lonely as fuck and it super sucks.
Last relationship of nearly four years ended three years ago next month and I’ve been almost entirely alone since. Since it was initially an LDR and I’d relocated to her hometown so we could be together, my life had been pretty much turned upside down after we failed, and starting over from scratch has proved far more difficult than originally anticipated.
I moved back home to Chicago with the expectation that I’d get myself together someplace familiar and get back to standing on my own two feet, before eventually spreading my flappers and adventuring elsewhere. Tried a couple different career paths and failed pretty miserably, then started working as a rideshare driver nearly a year ago, with the intent of saving up enough that I might eventually have the time and energy and flexibility to focus on squeezing a living out of my main interest, namely art.
Unfortunately, being this lonely has practically evaporated my creativity and passion for what used to be an outstanding talent, and it feels like I’m constantly drowning in a sinkhole of depression and anxiety, which has caused me to shift all focus into working like a slave to distract from all of it, which I realize isn’t healthy despite making good money.
What really sucks is feeling totally passive in light of everyone else enjoying their lives and having fun while I’m stuck in observation mode — like it’s pretty wack driving friends and partners around during evenings and wishing I shared that type of connection with someone. Oftentimes I’ve tried initiating connections with people, and vice versa, but nothing ends up clicking for whatever reason and all I have are single serving friends. Flirted with so many girls who seemed awesome or at least somewhat interesting at first, then they’ve all ghosted without explanation, and recently I’ve started to realize that it’s probably not the right place for me to be looking, given the circumstances.
Declared pandemic and everybody losing their minds over identity politics definitely hasn’t helped.
Dating apps also suck, like trying to find a match in the clearance rack of humanity, and feeling that the best odds are in downplaying myself and going along with that same one-dimensional game that most people are stuck playing — to heck with all of that.
My stupid Hinge account has nearly two hundred matches, so it’s not that I’m physically monstrous or otherwise unappealing at first glance, just that those platforms haven’t yielded any positive results for me, which I assume is mostly because the medium is too superficial and simply doesn’t work for where I’m at in life.
In short, I’m depressed due to loneliness and it sucks being stuck in the cycle, so I’m posting here in hopes of turning that around and finding someone who doesn’t mind that I feel this way at first base, someone with whom to share the type of connection and honesty and mutual support that lifts us both up high as fuck as we rise in love, cos falling is for derps and life isn’t meant to be lived alone.
Anyhow, now that the outline of my emotional baggage has been laid on the table, here goes some more specific info for the record:
I‘m huge on science fiction. Favorites include the Matrix trilogy, the Alien franchise, Battlestar Galactica, District 9, Starship Troopers, Terminator, Altered Carbon, just to name a few that come to mind. Also Metal Gear Solid is like my single favorite work of fiction ever ever, so there’s that whole convoluted mess you can look forward to hearing about 😂
I listen to a fairly wide variety of music, and I’m a huge hip hop head, with a particular appreciation for 90s boom bap and lofi style production and lyricism. My favorite rap act of the past several years has been Run the Jewels, hands down, cos they are overly awesome in all the ways that most contemporary hip hop simply isn’t — plus they’ve even done a song with my favorite band of all time, namely Phantogram, so fuck yeah RTJ all day and Phantogram forever.
I love cooking, though due being alone and working so much of the time I mostly eat takeout. However, I’ll super love to cook together or even do most or all of the cooking since it’s really great making stuff for other people and sharing the enjoyment together.
I also enjoy having drinks when I’m not too tired from work. My faves include whiskey and Bloody Marys. Used to smoke my fair share weed but haven’t in a while for lack of access, though I certainly wouldn’t mind getting high and vegging out together over a good stoner comedy and some dank munchies 😊
Politically I’m an Anarchist/Voluntarist, so I’m not particularly invested in mainstream politics, aside from analyzing how they relate to globalism and the centralization of power and control over society and humanity. Conspiracy realism and social engineering, understanding how shit is being manipulated behind the scenes by the the ruling class and exploring meaningful alternatives is the sorta political discussion which interests me. That being said, I really don’t mind where you’re aligned on any side of the aisle, because personally I find it ridiculous how people let themselves be so deeply defined and divided along these lines that they build protective bubbles to insulate themselves from difference of opinion, like you’re either with the good guys or with the enemy 🤢🤮. Ultimately, you can vote Biden or Trump, Democrat or Republican, even though they’re both objectively horrible, and I’ll still love you 🥰
Oh, also I just bought a drone & wanna start doing some aerial photography and video editing, so there’s something fun we can begin exploring together.
Physically I’m 5’10”, mixed ethnicity (white/hispanic), slightly bearded with a toned dad sorta bod, and generally more rugged than smooth in terms of appearance.
Probably gonna find this post most useful as a reference point, given that dating subs are so over-saturated these days, however if you’re seeing this as it’s being posted then by all means let’s chat 😁
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2020.09.24 03:29 Nugget93 27 [M4F] Lonely sleep deprived shift worker, health worker and nursing student looking for cute girl for long term relationship, travel companion, midnight snack runs and cuddle nap dates.

What I'm looking for:
To put it simply I am essentially looking for a genuine long-term relationship and emotional connection. Not interested in hook ups or one-night stands.
Appearance:
Let’s be real at the end of the day appearance is important so I might as well be honest here. I’m only 5’5 tall (165cm) and 65kg (fit build). I was born and raised in Australia but off Vietnamese descent. The BEST pay I way can describe myself is essentially the shorter version of Jacky Chan who doesn’t know martial arts. I’m not even kidding, a lot of my patients tell me that. I don’t care about height either, you could be small and petite or 6-foot-tall in heels and still would not care. We are all human after all.
Personality:
I’m very approachable and have the mentally of an over exited puppy who wants to get along with everyone. I also walk and talk at about a million miles an hour and like to think myself as a kind, gentle, helpful and compassionate person. I mean I’m not afraid to say I love cute fluffy animals or babies.
Career:
I am currently working in NSW health as a ward orderly (bed pushepatient lifteerrand boy) and an Assistant in Nursing. I am also in my third and final year of my nursing degree and want to work with sick babies and children in my future career. As I mentioned before I love babies and not afraid to admit that I want to cuddle and bottle feed infants all day.
Future:
Well given houses are so expensive in this city its either both of us knuckle down to afford one because I sure as hell can’t do it on my own. Or move to another state and start a new life. Or travel the world and live a nomadic life (once this shit over that is). Or a mix of everything.
Hobbies:
When I’m not studying or working, I like to go the gym and do some strength training. Before COVID I really loved ‘adventure travel’ (its marketing term for active travelling) and trekking in remote places on the other side of the world. However, with the current travel bans I doubt I will be ding that anytime soon. Once its all over I am looking for travel companion. I remember one night I had a hotel room to myself in Tanzania and it was raining outside. While I was alone lying in the king-sized bed I thought ‘I wish I could share this with someone’.
What’s in it for you?
I will support you in your goals no matter what it is. I will be your rock in your worst moments, be emotionally open and will listen to your problems without judgement. And finally free Vietnamese food!
PS: I've dated both Asian and white girls and have been into girls of African, Hispanic and Indian descent so I don't care about race and you don't have to be strictly Asian.
PSS: Kink friendly and I will leave it at that. If you are not exactly 'vanilla' enquire within. If that's not your thing that's cool, pretend you didn't see that.
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2020.09.24 03:16 RedditSuggestName 38 [F4M] - SoCal 4 SoCal - (locals only) LTR - I know my person is out there, we just have to find each other

TL;DR: BBW, loves Disneyland, TV and her pets (2 cats and 1 dog); looking for a fellow DDF guy, who wants to get married and have kids in a couple years too.
Locals only, because I do want to meet, COVID safe of course.

The long post:
My dream is to find the whole 9 yards: friendship, marriage, raise kids together; then we retire someplace warm or with a beach view. Does that sound good to anyone else?
If you sub to financialindependence/ we'll get along. I'm determined to retire early.
I’m a Hispanic 5’2, single, curvy/BBW, with hazel eyes, naturally dirty blonde hair (I dye it purple); living in the Santa Clarita Valley. I'm 38 years old.
I'm at the stage in my life where I'm financially stable, and am ready to have kids in a couple years. I'm looking for a partner who is in the same life stage as me. So age isn't important to me, but this is. Please don't DM me unless you want and are ready for the same.
I have 2 cats and 1 dog, I love them a lot. I'll always have pets in my life.
I’m a chatty texter; I respond as soon as I can.
I’ve never been married, nor do I have kids; I’m STD and drug free - I’m looking for the same.
As for age, race, height, weight; none of that matters to me. It's more important to me that we're in the same life stage.
Apparently I have to say this explicitly. Only message if you are single and are also looking for commitment.
Be prepared to video chat. I have no desire to be catfished.
I'm staying sane through the pandemic with the help of my 3 fur babies, and lots of TV.
Let's see, I've watched: Ozark, Narcos, Narcos Mexico, Dead to Me, Legacies, Living with Yourself, Preacher, Fleabag, Silicon Valley, Twin Peaks (old, movie and new), Ray Donovan, On Becoming a God in Central FL, Penny Dreadful (original series), The Umbrella Academy, Perry Mason, The Boys, Atlanta, What We Do in the Shadows (still need to watch the movie; it's not on any of my streaming services right now), The Orville.
I am looking for a new show to watch....
I got a COVID test in June. It was the up the nose one, ugh. Negative, yay! I'm more than fine getting another test before meeting you. Please be prepared to do that same.
I know COVID has added challenges to the already difficult world of dating. But I have faith we can find a way to safely meet. There are places we can drink/eat at patios.
Honestly, if there isn't at least a plan to meet within a month of talking, I'm out. I'm not looking for a penpal.
ABOUT ME:
-I want to live my life filled with love, laughter, family, yummy food, my puppy and kitties, and one day, kiddos.
-I'm a homebody who likes going out on special occasions.
-My hobbies include TV show and movie marathons; Disneyland (at night); Rock concerts.
-My Favorite shows: Arrested Development, Chuck, Friends, Agents of Shield, Game of Thrones, Schitt’s Creek, Supernatural, Umbrella Academy.
-Favorite movies: Corpse Bride, Airheads, Blow, The Departed, Office Space, The Prestige, Marvel Comic Universe, Harry PotteFantastic Beasts, Star Wars.
-Favorite bands: Pantera, Metallica, Green Day, My Chemical Romance, AFI. The most recent concerts I've been to are movie composer orchestra combos. i.e., Danny Elfman, and Ramin Djawadi.
-I have (had? Haha) a long commute. I listen to a podcast in the morning (The Ralph Report) and audiobooks at night; music too when I’m in the mood. Constantly looking for new audiobooks. Would appreciate recommendations. I like fantasy books; Harry Potter, A Song Of Ice and Fire. I fell in love with the Mistborn trilogy this last year.
-I'm looking for a serious, long term, monogamous relationship. I hope to meet someone with some similar interests, so we have something in common, but not someone exactly the same as me, because I don't think that'd be interesting or make for a good partnership. We’d be partners that help each other out, making life more enjoyable along the way.
-I live a healthy lifestyle (mind and body). Pre-COVID, I worked out daily. I’m on a weightloss journey. I would need to be with someone who’s supportive. Possible even currently going through the same thing or did in the past.
I need to be with someone that doesn’t give a shit about stretch marks and what not. Besides, if we have kids, I’ll get more.
If you eat healthy most of the time, it would make things easier.
I do still enjoy cheat meals, with carbs and sugars on special occasions. It just isn’t a daily thing anymore.
-Be hygienic, I am. Brush your teeth at least twice a day. Be a fan of mint and gum. Wash everywhere, including behind the ears.
Bonus points: if you wear cologne. I wear perfume on special occasions; mostly floral scents.
-I‘m Liberal. Being honest, I won’t have anything in common with someone who voted for, agrees with, and/or plans to vote for Trump or any of his butt kissers.
For example, I don’t think wanting universal healthcare so that I don’t have to worry about bankrupting myself and my loved ones, should I get in a horrible accident or cancer, makes me an evil socialist. It makes me want my country to be on par with the rest of the civilized world.
-I’m not very religious, I don’t think I can be with someone who is. I wouldn’t be good at religious conversations and I would not go to church.
-I don’t have any tattoos, only my ears are pierced (I wouldn’t care if you have tattoos or piercings).
-I’m middle class, and would need someone in at least a similar financial situation, so we can enjoy doing things together (restaurants, events, travel, tickets to Disneyland for the kids, etc...). I’m a fan of paying for my own food, tickets and what not. I am NOT looking to be a sugar baby and won’t be someone else’s sugar momma. We’re adults here; adults pay their own way.
-Traveling, of course I love to travel. I want to go back to Europe, I need to visit places like the PNW, Niagara Falls, Boston. When I have kids, I want to take them at least one to NYC for xmas (I love Christmas Tree lights); I would love to spend the other holidays in some place warm, like Australia/New Zealand. I like staying in fancy hotels. Room service is awesome. Taxis/Ubers are awesome. Right now, my job allows me to take a month off for vacations in summer. I need to start taking advantage of that.
-My dream is to retire early; in about 20 years. Not sure how that'll work with having children, but both things are worth attempting.
-I'm not a fan of being in the sun, because I get sunburnt easily. This is a big reason for why I am not an outdoorsy person.
-I hate being cold. I’m a big fan of heaters and electric blankets.
-I won’t care if you watch sports. Just don’t make me watch, don’t make our lives revolve around them, and we’ll get along. I don’t mind going to live sporting events, maybe once or twice a year. I’ll have no idea what’s going on, but I’ve had fun attending the few sporting events I have.
-I love my family, but it's a complicated relationship. I need a partner who understands this. Who will follow my lead with dealing with them, and above all else, will not try to interfere.
-Living Apart Together (LAT) appeals to me; or at the very least, we'd have a very big home. I never want to share a bathroom again. And I like the idea of each of us having a private space to go to if we just need some alone time.
-I’m pro vaccinations; sorry, can’t let an anti vaxxer touch me. If we were lucky to have kids, they would be vaccinated. In 2019, I got up to date with MMR and DTap booster shots, got the flu vaccine, and got the HPV vaccines. You’ll get bonus points if you’ve done this too.
-as far as sex life goes, I need to be with someone who gets off on making me orgasm. Be good with kissing, cuddling, oral, fingering (you gotta know where the G-Spot is). Bonus points is if you can do this for hours. Do it right, and you’ll be rewarded. Only a guy willing to wear condoms gets to touch me.
And no, I’m not looking for anything casual or a FWB. no we would not see if we’re sexually compatible out on the first few dates.
Sex is an important part of a lasting relationship, but it’s not the only thing. We have to click elsewhere before we get to sex.
-I don’t do drugs, don’t smoke anything at all; this includes 420 stuff. I drink alcohol on special occasions, but it’s not often. I’d need to be with someone who is the same.
In the subject line, please put your eye color.
Thank you for reading. I know this was long, but I know what I want. Has anyone seen the great early 2010s show Happy Endings? There’s a quote that I think describes what I’m looking for. Someone to realize: “I found a woman who was so sure of what she wanted, and she wanted me.” Brad to wife Jane, S2E18 ‘Party of Six.’
Those who need NOT apply:
-Addicts
-Liars and cheaters (I will be honest and monogamous, and expect the same)
-Racists (I do not think people who move to a new country, searching for a better life, are criminals. If you disagree, we won't get along.)
-Physically abusive, violent (maybe I've watched Big Little Lies too many times...)
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2020.09.24 03:15 RedditSuggestName 38 [F4M] #SoCal4Socal (locals only) - LTR - I know my person is out there, we just have to find each other

TL;DR: BBW, loves Disneyland, TV and her pets (2 cats and 1 dog); looking for a fellow DDF guy, who wants to get married and have kids in a couple years too.
Locals only, because I do want to meet, COVID safe of course.
The long post:
My dream is to find the whole 9 yards: friendship, marriage, raise kids together; then we retire someplace warm or with a beach view. Does that sound good to anyone else?
If you sub to financialindependence/ we'll get along. I'm determined to retire early.
I’m a Hispanic 5’2, single, curvy/BBW, with hazel eyes, naturally dirty blonde hair (I dye it purple); living in the Santa Clarita Valley. I'm 38 years old.
I'm at the stage in my life where I'm financially stable, and am ready to have kids in a couple years. I'm looking for a partner who is in the same life stage as me. So age isn't important to me, but this is. Please don't DM me unless you want and are ready for the same.
I have 2 cats and 1 dog, I love them a lot. I'll always have pets in my life.
I’m a chatty texter; I respond as soon as I can.
I’ve never been married, nor do I have kids; I’m STD and drug free - I’m looking for the same.
As for age, race, height, weight; none of that matters to me. It's more important to me that we're in the same life stage.
Apparently I have to say this explicitly. Only message if you are single and are also looking for commitment.
Be prepared to video chat. I have no desire to be catfished.
I'm staying sane through the pandemic with the help of my 3 fur babies, and lots of TV.
Let's see, I've watched: Ozark, Narcos, Narcos Mexico, Dead to Me, Legacies, Living with Yourself, Preacher, Fleabag, Silicon Valley, Twin Peaks (old, movie and new), Ray Donovan, On Becoming a God in Central FL, Penny Dreadful (original series), The Umbrella Academy, Perry Mason, The Boys, Atlanta, What We Do in the Shadows (still need to watch the movie; it's not on any of my streaming services right now), The Orville.
I am looking for a new show to watch....
I got a COVID test in June. It was the up the nose one, ugh. Negative, yay! I'm more than fine getting another test before meeting you. Please be prepared to do that same.
I know COVID has added challenges to the already difficult world of dating. But I have faith we can find a way to safely meet. There are places we can drink/eat at patios.
Honestly, if there isn't at least a plan to meet within a month of talking, I'm out. I'm not looking for a penpal.
ABOUT ME:
-I want to live my life filled with love, laughter, family, yummy food, my puppy and kitties, and one day, kiddos.
-I'm a homebody who likes going out on special occasions.
-My hobbies include TV show and movie marathons; Disneyland (at night); Rock concerts.
-My Favorite shows: Arrested Development, Chuck, Friends, Agents of Shield, Game of Thrones, Schitt’s Creek, Supernatural, Umbrella Academy.
-Favorite movies: Corpse Bride, Airheads, Blow, The Departed, Office Space, The Prestige, Marvel Comic Universe, Harry PotteFantastic Beasts, Star Wars.
-Favorite bands: Pantera, Metallica, Green Day, My Chemical Romance, AFI. The most recent concerts I've been to are movie composer orchestra combos. i.e., Danny Elfman, and Ramin Djawadi.
-I have (had? Haha) a long commute. I listen to a podcast in the morning (The Ralph Report) and audiobooks at night; music too when I’m in the mood. Constantly looking for new audiobooks. Would appreciate recommendations. I like fantasy books; Harry Potter, A Song Of Ice and Fire. I fell in love with the Mistborn trilogy this last year.
-I'm looking for a serious, long term, monogamous relationship. I hope to meet someone with some similar interests, so we have something in common, but not someone exactly the same as me, because I don't think that'd be interesting or make for a good partnership. We’d be partners that help each other out, making life more enjoyable along the way.
-I live a healthy lifestyle (mind and body). Pre-COVID, I worked out daily. I’m on a weightloss journey. I would need to be with someone who’s supportive. Possible even currently going through the same thing or did in the past.
I need to be with someone that doesn’t give a shit about stretch marks and what not. Besides, if we have kids, I’ll get more.
If you eat healthy most of the time, it would make things easier.
I do still enjoy cheat meals, with carbs and sugars on special occasions. It just isn’t a daily thing anymore.
-Be hygienic, I am. Brush your teeth at least twice a day. Be a fan of mint and gum. Wash everywhere, including behind the ears.
Bonus points: if you wear cologne. I wear perfume on special occasions; mostly floral scents.
-I‘m Liberal. Being honest, I won’t have anything in common with someone who voted for, agrees with, and/or plans to vote for Trump or any of his butt kissers.
For example, I don’t think wanting universal healthcare so that I don’t have to worry about bankrupting myself and my loved ones, should I get in a horrible accident or cancer, makes me an evil socialist. It makes me want my country to be on par with the rest of the civilized world.
-I’m not very religious, I don’t think I can be with someone who is. I wouldn’t be good at religious conversations and I would not go to church.
-I don’t have any tattoos, only my ears are pierced (I wouldn’t care if you have tattoos or piercings).
-I’m middle class, and would need someone in at least a similar financial situation, so we can enjoy doing things together (restaurants, events, travel, tickets to Disneyland for the kids, etc...). I’m a fan of paying for my own food, tickets and what not. I am NOT looking to be a sugar baby and won’t be someone else’s sugar momma. We’re adults here; adults pay their own way.
-Traveling, of course I love to travel. I want to go back to Europe, I need to visit places like the PNW, Niagara Falls, Boston. When I have kids, I want to take them at least one to NYC for xmas (I love Christmas Tree lights); I would love to spend the other holidays in some place warm, like Australia/New Zealand. I like staying in fancy hotels. Room service is awesome. Taxis/Ubers are awesome. Right now, my job allows me to take a month off for vacations in summer. I need to start taking advantage of that.
-My dream is to retire early; in about 20 years. Not sure how that'll work with having children, but both things are worth attempting.
-I'm not a fan of being in the sun, because I get sunburnt easily. This is a big reason for why I am not an outdoorsy person.
-I hate being cold. I’m a big fan of heaters and electric blankets.
-I won’t care if you watch sports. Just don’t make me watch, don’t make our lives revolve around them, and we’ll get along. I don’t mind going to live sporting events, maybe once or twice a year. I’ll have no idea what’s going on, but I’ve had fun attending the few sporting events I have.
-I love my family, but it's a complicated relationship. I need a partner who understands this. Who will follow my lead with dealing with them, and above all else, will not try to interfere.
-Living Apart Together (LAT) appeals to me; or at the very least, we'd have a very big home. I never want to share a bathroom again. And I like the idea of each of us having a private space to go to if we just need some alone time.
-I’m pro vaccinations; sorry, can’t let an anti vaxxer touch me. If we were lucky to have kids, they would be vaccinated. In 2019, I got up to date with MMR and DTap booster shots, got the flu vaccine, and got the HPV vaccines. You’ll get bonus points if you’ve done this too.
-as far as sex life goes, I need to be with someone who gets off on making me orgasm. Be good with kissing, cuddling, oral, fingering (you gotta know where the G-Spot is). Bonus points is if you can do this for hours. Do it right, and you’ll be rewarded. Only a guy willing to wear condoms gets to touch me.
And no, I’m not looking for anything casual or a FWB. no we would not see if we’re sexually compatible out on the first few dates.
Sex is an important part of a lasting relationship, but it’s not the only thing. We have to click elsewhere before we get to sex.
-I don’t do drugs, don’t smoke anything at all; this includes 420 stuff. I drink alcohol on special occasions, but it’s not often. I’d need to be with someone who is the same.
In the subject line, please put your eye color.
Thank you for reading. I know this was long, but I know what I want. Has anyone seen the great early 2010s show Happy Endings? There’s a quote that I think describes what I’m looking for. Someone to realize: “I found a woman who was so sure of what she wanted, and she wanted me.” Brad to wife Jane, S2E18 ‘Party of Six.’
Those who need NOT apply:
-Addicts
-Liars and cheaters (I will be honest and monogamous, and expect the same)
-Racists (I do not think people who move to a new country, searching for a better life, are criminals. If you disagree, we won't get along.)
-Physically abusive, violent (maybe I've watched Big Little Lies too many times...)
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2020.09.24 00:01 Edomaro My (29m) experience with Tinder (for 3 years)

I have used Tinder for quite a while. Before I get into the juicy details of what was it like, I'd like to give a bit of context regarding myself and my personality, and a bit my history right before starting my Tinder profile for the very first time.
I'm an above average looking guy, straight, 6' 3"ish (about 192cm) tall, that is an avid gamer, a hopeless romantic and I'm terrible at having a "silver tongue" when it comes to women, meaning I do NOT have a good intial wordplay to entice women.
I live in an island right at the middle of the Caribbean and I used my location to try an attempt at something real (anyone would think it's a fool's quest, I know) since I really don't like clubbing or "going out for a hunt" when it comes to dating. So using Tinder was my way of telling myself "hey, at least you're trying something".
Keep in mind I never swiped on women outside of my country because the emotional distress that a long distance relationship can cause was not something I felt like going thru.
So, here I go creating my Tinder profile for the very first time back in October 2017! I must admit my first profile setup had a bio with "too serious gentleman" vibe to it and terrible pictures of myself, but I still got a couple of matches that time nonetheless.
Most of my matches had to have some sort of thumb numbness that the poor woman couldn't text past a "hi" when I greeted my Tinder matches, it felt like I had to put on a huge show for women and be mysterious, charming and entertaining 90% of time in order to get a simple reply like "hahaha thanks" or just a mediocre "lol" response. These types of dull and empty responses is what kept me discouraged and made me uninstall Tinder, but every time I felt too lonely I went and install it to give it a shot again, with my hopeless hope that I would find something worthwhile there.
Now let's talk about those few matches that did respond, some gave me some interesting conversations about what they did and asked about myself. Like about a month or two later I went on my first Tinder meet up, and it was an absolute disaster, I felt catfished because the ludicrous amount of make up and camera trickery used on that profile was all over the place. I mean it WAS the person who I matched with, but I met her WITHOUT the make up, and omg she looked like she had white or maybe hispanic skin, and what I saw in person was a black woman (I have no issues with black women, but it's when you buy something but what you get is not what you thought you were buying)... Long story short, I was nice to her to avoid ruining her evening but I cut communication shortly after, I made up some story about not being ready for a relationship and whatnot to avoid ghosting her.
I had a couple more of matches before going out on my second date, but most of those were conversations that led nowhere. Fast forward to my second date, like 3 months after the first one, I had reset my Tinder account with a new bio that was a bit goofy and way better pictures. This date was a bit awkward because I didn't pay much attention to the woman's pictures because had I looked closely I wouldn't have given a like simply because she wasn't the type of women I get attracted to. But the girl itself was pretty nice, funny and cool, so I decided to give it a try, spoiler alert, that was a big mistake on my part. At the beginning it was pretty nice tbh, but the physical attraction was NOT there and I end feeling that I was forcing myself to date this chick, and it isn't fair to have someone around as a back up plan, so I said the classic excuse to cut communication to avoid ghosting, the "it's not you it's me".
After that I was more cautious of who I was liking and then it dawned on me that I gave a lot of likes out of self pity and loneliness, because I kept getting matches that even without meeting her it felt like as was committing the same mistake as I did with date #2 so I started canceling matches. I'm here to tell you that it's ok to have your "beauty" standards, because if you don't physically like someone it get WAY harder to actually have real feelings for them, it seems shallow but appearances do matter.
After that I didn't get another date for 6 months, so I uninstalled Tinder, took a small break and reinstalled it, wrote a new shorter bio with the same pictures used second time around. I got surprised when I saw myself having a date A SINGLE WEEK after reinstalling Tinder, that date was kinda so-so but she had a really close friend that was quite a dick to me before, when I was in school, so she didn't have that in her favor, the guy started trash talking about me on the side when she said she was dating me to boot. We only dated for a month.
After that fiasco, I went on an extremely dry streak of dull matches and no dates, way up around January 2019. This date was a lot fun, she was this sexy girl that was quite nice to me but she still had a thing for her ex. Long story short 2 weeks in after dating she tells me she has conflicting feelings about me and her ex, so I noped the f**k outta there...
Uninstalled Tinder around February 2019, I had used Tinder Gold that last time because I actually had over 100 likes which was an all time record for me and wanted to see if there was a like worth matching with, sadly the chances to find a match worthy one was about 3% to find a decent match. So I didn't find anything interesting there, and the matches I did get were also dull and boring, at this time I was thinking I may be the one with a problem, which led me to uninstall.
So I went on a hiatus, said "I'm not installing Tinder again", but 2020 comes with covid and this quarantine crisis that while keeps people safe can make you insane feeling locked up for that long, didn't know what any more games to play and I was borderline depressed so... My best thought in that situation was "sure, Tinder should help!".
This time around I had taken new pictures on a couple of weddings I went all dressed up, and also I went to a resort and took some pretty good pictures there as well, so I remade my Tinder profile in april this time around making a bio truest to myself, in my case I wrote about really lame bad jokes (I love bad jokes, I feel them in my veins) and gaming, specifically on PC and Nintendo Switch. Why did I make the bio truest to myself? To keep uncompatible women away, I noticed that the lack of compatibility was what led to dull and empty conversations with various matches. While the dull matches DID still get on my Tinder profile, they were not the majority this time.
Moving on with this last reinstall of Tinder, I almost gave up, I think I paid Tinder gold twice this time around (yeah, I was beginning to get desperate), and here came May, June, July, August... Had no meaningful matches, no spark and no joy... My Tinder went back to the basic free version, but I still kept my account this time, and kept swiping right on women that tickled my fancy.
And I had 2 dates with a woman recently, this was more of a "at least she's talking to me and keeping my mind busy from time to time, no that I feel something real here... But it's something". I didn't really fancy her at all, so I told her that I didn't really feel it, there was no spark and that I thanked her for her time but it's a no from me...
BUT, AND THIS IS A HUGE BUT (that's what she said -Michael Scott TM), the same day I said no to the woman I went on 2 dates with I matched with the most compatible, most amazing and most lovely woman (27) I have ever had the pleasure of talking with. The chemistry was incredibly good right from the start, she's super nerdy, super cute and why did she like me? Aside from my good looks, she told me that my bio was what made her give an immediate like... And what was in the bio? I had my height, my videogame hobby clearly stated with an invitation to play Animal Crossing New Horizons and the most awful stupid joke ever "why is 1 the most stupid number? Because one never knows".
And yes, we're still dating, we're crazy for each other and feel like we've known each other for many years. We deleted our Tinder accounts on our first date, and we both feel so lucky to have one another. There's a chance, even if it is a Legendary or Pearlescent chance of finding THAT match, a chance is still a good opportunity to keep trying.
And that was it, I've met the best woman I've ever had the pleasure of dating thanks to Tinder, it only took me 3 years of on and off activity in Tinder. And I was just about to give up again on Tinder the day we matched because my previous date was lame for my taste (and I had nothing in common with my previous date).
I'll try to answer any questions you guys may have, and thank you from the bottom of my heart to any one who took their time to read me.
May the force... I mean may good luck be with you!
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